anger management ti-poux: Hi all...
I am very angry with my ex, I am mad that he let MOI go without so much as a fight to keep us together.
I know how can you hate someone you loved so much...a good friend said that...
I need to let go, because this hatred is consuming me and I do not like it.
any suggestions please...before I go down there and pull out his toenails one by one?
Its just a dark place that anger...probably masking love...how can you want your ex to be happy when you heart bleeds...this is quite the internal conflict.
I am counting on you Ojarians with all your wise advice to help little ti-poux on that one.
Thank you
Re:anger management charmed: I'm about where you are at, but I also see that the anger is self-destructive. I'm hurting myself and I have to stop that.
A few suggestions that has helped me-
Write letters to get your feelings out, but don't send them
Talk to someone you can trust your words with. Tell them your deepest feelings.
Pray-this has helped me more than anything
Find constructive things to do to get your mind off the negative feelings. Allow yourself so much time to accept and vent your feelings and then say "enough". Wallowing in the feelings hour after hour, day after day is destructive and that's what I did at first. I was making myself miserable.
Think of all the crazy things you'd like to do to your ex, but PLEASE don't do them LOL This actually got me laughing my butt off with some of the things I came up with LOL
Be the bigger person by living a good, healthy and happy life and leave the black sheep behind. One day you'll be very glad you did!!!
Know that your ex is the one that has lost more than you. He didn't appreciate the gift that is YOU. One day someone very special will.
Do something to help others. This helps to get your focus off of yourself. It allieviates the negative and breeds the positive
Not sure any of this will help, but I wish you the best of luck. It is a tough road to go down
`charmed
Re:anger management riversandlakes:
As charmed said, talk it out. Bore your closest friends to death; that's what they are for, and they will have this too one day.
i did.
They can just walk away, who knows why. Never really loved you, perhaps, that's why. I'm sorry.
"He didn't appreciate the gift that is YOU."
Re:anger management ti-poux: thanks to both of you...
I hope that will help. Deep down I know what I have to do but its always nice to have you feelings validated.
Again, thanks charmed and river
Chantal
Re:anger management jtim10: I feel the anger myself. I just found out my stbxw was haveing on-line affairs and talking on the phone with men all the way back to last sumer!! Can't prove any further but I feel sure it led to pyhsical contact also.
