Re:to forgiving hudson: It is a long road. And being able to forgive means aleviating much of the heaviness of your burden. That way, the long road won't always seem so long.
Re:to forgiving riversandlakes:
long and bumpy road. it's not as easy as "i forgive you."
but do it for your own sake. i think it seeks to look beyond this hurt to the many years beyond. even this thought was hurtful last time; how do i go on the many years without her?
be hurt no more. suffer no more. there must be a cap for that jar. i want to think forgiveness is that cap.
i survived my first night of sobriety without nightmares, pain, nor flashes. perhaps i have learnt to forgive in 4 months 14 days? maybe it's just iron?
Re:to forgiving tigger: just question, what is it actually i'm supposed to be forgiving her for? She never cheated on me so it's not that, is it that she hurt me so much and never brought it up earlier, or didn't give me the chance to know the / her issues with our relationship.
I'm all into forgiving, but I can imagine the look she would give me if I were to say "I forgive you for breaking up with me, so suddenly, wish you the best, yada yada".... (reply) what are ya on about!
Maybe I'm miss understanding the concept, and just forgive in my heart and not say anything to her at all.
tig
Re:to forgiving hudson: Well, you don't forgive for her tigger. You forgive for you. You forgive to release anything that you may be holding against her, anything that you carry around with you, those things that you feel she did wrong to you. Holding on to the wrongs that were done to us can cause major stress and have a tendency to burden us down. Not only that, we should extend forgiveness if we expect to receive it.
Re:to forgiving tatortot0601: I agree with Blazin, you forgive to let go, to move on. I know as long as you harbor resentment for your ex, you dont move on. Being angry or hurt just allows you to keep holding on to them. Forgiving them for whatever it was or in your case was not done, allows you to let go and start to heal. It's easier said than done I know!
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