Re:to forgiving some-guy: Blazin' is bang-on again. The other party rarely, if ever, asks for forgiveness (because they don't/may not really care too much), but you forgive for yourself to help move on!
some-guy
Re:to forgiving purplestar278: I have forgiven, forgiven and forgiven some more and the only thing that I have received from my forgiveness is more pain and hurt. So intense that it's hard to move forward at times.
Even though it has hurt me soooo bad, I feel like it was the best thing I could do for myself and my kids. If I didn't forgive my STBX for the living hell he has put me through, I wouldn't be person I am right now! No, I'm not the strongest yet but with time I will be. I get stronger every day. He's the one who chose to hurt me, it sure as hell wasn't my first choice, but I can't let that hinder my growth in who I become and who I want to be.
I've heard many times that to forgive is to forget. It may be true, but at this time I don't see that as possible. I can forgive him for all that he has done to me but I don't think I will forget it any time soon. The pain is just too intense. Maybe some day I will reach that point, but not now!
Re:to forgiving jen: I don't think forgiveness is forgetting.
I believe we can forgive and still choose to not unnecessarily expose ourselves to continued pain/hurt that someone brings to our lives. I truly believe that it is letting go of the anger that we feel about that pain and hurt.
Re:to forgiving slowlearner: I struggle with it daily... so sad right now :'(
Re:to forgiving jen: SL~
Don't know if they will help any, but BIG ((((((HUGS)))))) to you. So sorry that you are hurting so badly right now.
mtmo
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