Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God rjack0612: Thanks Andy, see the hard prt is I have not told my son the reason she left. I want to but I know in my heart it would be wrong to do that. She told him its because of her job why she is not leaving home. He knows we are getting divorced but not the reason/s.
I have told her I have no interest in being plan b. I have no interest in an open marriage. She jus continues to lie and deny. I would hve much more respect if she just told the truth. Why can't she just admit it? She is mad at ME for telling everyone she is cheating?
Go figure.
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God jimloveless: jack. you are not alone here. many of us, myself included, have had the exact same thing happen. some of us (myself included) even doubted god at one point during the situation. the only thing that brings me any sort of spiritual relief is the fact that we all make our own choices. our wives made vows to us and they chose to break them while we were being model husbands. we are able to live free of guilt or shame, unlike our wives.
the mindset i try to maintain, sometimes more successfully than others, is to not expect anything out of anyone. I want to be a good man for the sake of being a good man. it's not a matter of being rewarded in this life or even the next. it just makes me feel right with myself, and worthwhile. strangly enough, the rewards only seem to come when i'm not looking for them.
grace and peace
james
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God jtim10: Great truths have been spoken in this thread, thanks everybody for the supportive words. THIS TOO WILL PASS! In the end we will all be judged, not for what our spouses or anybody else did, but for our own actions. Thats why I'm going to concentrate on being a better person and pray for wisdom and strength to forgive and let go. Hate will eat at you like no other emmotion, anger is hates ugly cousin, and unfortunantly so many times the anger gets directed in the wrong direction. I do not want to be the angry, ugly person, that goes off on people because they are consumed with anger. Time to start squeezing the lemons folks, I will find some splenda (got watch that weught) LOL We can make a big arse tank of lemonaid!! 8)
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God jimloveless: [quote author=rjack0612 link=board=1;threadid=12037;start=0#msg98291 date=1116954999"> She jus continues to lie and deny. I would hve much more respect if she just told the truth. Why can't she just admit it?
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I struggled with that too. i gave my wife 3 chances to come clean after i'd found out, and she was unwilling to. i gave her two weeks to regain my respect by being honest. but, no dice. it's just something our wives are going to have to figure out in their own time. I don't plan on waiting for that to happen, and it sounds like you've reached that point, too.
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God jtim10: I sure have Jim, she dosn't deserve somebody like me. Glad I found out the truth, it helps me to know my supisions were right and that there IS another man. And knowing that she can look me in the eye and lie without a shred of conscious (we need spell check on here!)LOL that just makes it eaiser to let go. For I know that I could never trust her and it kills any little thoughts of reconcelation that might creep in. I will trust again and love again, but not with her!!
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