Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God CoryL: You ask what good can come from this?
More than you think and more than you will believe right now.
Most of us have been where you are at right now. We've walked that path already. We know the hate, anger, sadness, anguish, disbelief, heartache, longing, and sheer terror that ensues.
The single most comforting phrase that I can offer that has helped me through this is as follows:
God cares more about your character than your comfort.
You may say, "but my character is fine. I am a nice guy, a good husband, and a great father." There is always room for improvement. You will improve because of this, I promise, if you are willing to work toward it.
There is good in everything. There are things that CAN escape a black hole. Life isn't over for you. I came to find that it was just beginning.
Keep your head up. PM me if you need someone to listen.
Cory
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God rjack0612: Thanks Cory. It's just I am so down right now. I don't know if I can get off the canvas this time. There is not ONE thing going smoothly in my life right now. Not ONE.
People say through yourself into you job. How, I have the attention span of a 3 year old. Go out with friends? They are all married. Just depresses me. Go on a date? With who? I have been out of circulation for SOOOO long. Plus, I am not in the state of mind for that right now.
This stinks. Life stinks right now.
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God CoryL: And you will be down. You are supposed to be. If you weren't, I'd raise an eyebrow.
I threw myself into work, exercise, and self-betterment. I read more books, started writing again and reflected.
I found a routine, stuck to it, and used the monotany to get me through the crap.
And now, everything, and I mean everything is better.
Just hang tough. It'll come.
Cory
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God ouch: So many things have already been said that are powerful and meaningful about this subject. I don't consider myself a religious person but I do know when I became aware of what my husband had been doing, the first thing I did, without thought, was to go to God. Through prayer and through remembering what suffering Christ did for us to show his love. I have never felt so much pain in my life and yet I know that is nothing compared to what Christ has suffered. But though all this pain and desperation, it has been a major comfort knowing that God is always with me. Yes, I wondered how my husband could justify in his mind his affair knowing deep inside he was breaking his vow to not only me and our children, but to God. In the end, I can't control what he chooses to do, and God gives him the free will to do as he wishes. So I will concern myself living my life so that God will show me mercy for my sins.
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God hudson: Wow, such good advice from everybody. Rjack, you should be thankful for all of these caring people.
And to echo CoryL, most of the time we don't understand why God allows what He allows. I spent one long day during my divorce being really angry at God, I had never been that way towards Him, and I found out that I was foolish for having done so.
If you could see what God sees you would understand it all.
Take care buddy, it'll all work out, have faith.
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