Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God charmed: I can totally relate to your feelings and my heart goes out to you. It seems all my life I have been dumped on one way or another. This sounds like a pity cry, but it isn't. I could tell one story after the other and you'd get my drift.
I turned my back on God a few years ago because I felt He'd turned His back on me. There was very little happiness in my life and enormous struggles, yet I was the "good" person that helped everyone, lived a good life and would literally die for those I love. It wasn't that I wanted something back, but I wanted "something" period. I wanted to be loved for who I am, not what I did. I wanted respect for who I am and to be cherished in a "real" and devoted way. I got quite the opposite.
Recently my boyfriend I'd been with for two years cheated on me. He was the love of my life. Someone that did cherish me, was commited, gave to me all I had been missing. Or so I thought. A man that appeared to be this wonderful, this close to me, became a major disappointment. I turned to God as I had been for the last several months and my healing began. My boyfriend is rebelling against God and is going down a destructive path. I don't want to go down that same path. God does not answer our prayers on our time, in our way, but He does answer them and in retrospect we see that He is always right and is actually protecting us.
The incident with my boyfriend offered me an opportunity to be "more" in the presence of God instead of less. I had the choice to go either way, but I saw that going down MY path was not a good choice. When I first found out about my boyfriend cheated I was devastated and the pain was intense. I did some stupid things and also wanted to blast the heck out of him. I had such negative feelings and had no idea what to do with them so I prayed. I prayed more and more and with each prayer I began to feel better and see a more empowered "me".
Logically, we know that we are better off without someone that hurts, deceives or destroys us, but emotionally we are told different. Logic and emotion are the worst of adversaries, but I always think about how God would handle a particular situation and try to do as He would want me to do. It never fails!!! Instead of blasting my boyfriend, I've not replied to his letter at all and I pray for him. The emotional part of me still sometimes feels the need to let it all out, but I know God will carry my burdens, if I let Him. The alternative hasn't worked for me.
I wish you the very best-
charmed
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I know God will carry my burdens, if I let Him.
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VERY WELL SAID!
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God microtech1: wow this thread is really powerful. Rjack I agree with what everyone has already said. They have some very good perspective on the situation with great spiritual advice. I know that at this point things look very dark and confusing to you. Just remember that God loves you and will never turn his back on you. You ask why the answer to all prayers is no and I don't think that is true. What are you praying about? Are you asking for your wife back or are you asking for strength to get through this. Whenever one door closes another opens sometimes we just can't see the door opening. Examine what you are asking God for maybe the answer is no because he sees what is best for you. Fully trust in him to lead you in the direction that is best for you. Start believing that and you will see that he doesn't answer no as much as we think he does.
If I can help in anyway let me know. Stay strong and keep your faith.
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God rjack0612: Thank you everyone. I know we all have free will but this is so....HARD. I'm angy, hurt, frustrated all at the same time. I am completely empty but I still have nowhere to put all of this...stuff. I was a faithful husband, loyal, good provider, good father, good step-father and for what? THIS!! So some scumbag police officer can take my wife and family? I know God has the master plan but what the heck good can come out of this? Destroy me, destroy my family? There can be NOTHING POSITIVE TO COME OUT OF THIS. All I hear from everyone is what a great guy I am, what a great husband I as/was. Where did it get ME?
Re:First My Wife Turned Her Back & Now God ajw: Dont blame God for the fact your wifes a cheater and a liar.....dont worry she'll get hers...these things always run full circle.
You and your son need to decide wether your going to let your wifes actions control your lives......get away together for a few days...go do a father/son thing...just let each other know that your wife/mother may have walked out,but you 2 are there for each other.
Like you said in a previous post...your wife wants you as a Plan B....well maybe you should let her know.....your either Plan A or no Plan at all.....get with the program or ship out.
She's had the upper hand in this situation the whole time....its time you took it back...your never going to get her to admit she's cheating,you have to face facts,she's a liar and she's happy being a liar....dont even bother accusing her anymore...just let her know is she part of the problem or part of the solution.
Good luck
Andy
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