Just Doesn't Seem Possible To Find Someone HopeEternal: Does anyone else feel that way? I know I'm being stupid, but I do have to wonder if I'm going to find someone. My marriage has been dead for a while, years in fact, but the papers were just filed. I just found out that my wife has already found a guy. I heard her say "I love you too" on the phone the other day while she was moving her stuff out. Might not have been him, could have been her stepmom, but still, how could she be feeling that way already?
We started our relationship hot and heavy after breakups. It seems like she is making the same mistake. I don't want to make that mistake. When I find someone, I am going to be picky. Open, but picky. I want the real thing this time.
But I wonder, will I ever find her? I'm tall, athletic, good looking (or so I'm told) smart, creative, funny and thoughtful, but that beeyotch really did a number on my confidence.
Someone tell me they felt this way and it got better. Please?
Re:Just Doesn't Seem Possible To Find Someone hudson: Yeah, it's get better, don't worry. Although, there are times when I feel that I will never find anybody. It sucks to be lonely. I try to just let the feelings pass.
Things will look up. ;)
Re:Just Doesn't Seem Possible To Find Someone jen: HE~
I think we've all felt this way at some point. I remember thinking that right after the decision to divorce was made and wondering if/how I would ever meet anybody I felt so low.
It does get better. But, it takes time. I took some really important time to focus on me, my wants, my needs, my interests, etc. and to get to the place where I am happy with who I am, what I am doing - just for me. And, amazingly, once I felt good about me - I started feeling less hopeless about meeting someone because I know that I can stand on my own and then when I did meet someone interesting, I was in a place where I could actually be open to it.
So, take the time to focus on you for a while. The rest will come.
mtmo
Re:Just Doesn't Seem Possible To Find Someone WhiskeyGirl: Pretty sure you'll find someone, your wife was just packing her stuff the other day? Give yourself a break, it may take a while and just because she found someone doesnt mean you have to. I know the feeling, if the other person meets someone first then we feel like we have to have someone too or they are winning!! lol Stupid and childish, but true....divorce really brings out the best in us doesnt it? NOT! Also if she just moved out and is already seeing someone my bet is its a rebounder and wont last long, dont worry about it, we all deal with things differently, I started dating right away after my husband left, not because our relationship didnt mean anything to me or that I wanted a serious relationship right away but simply because I was lonely and missed having a mans company now and then, could be the same for her. I have been legally separated for over a year and am only just now starting to think I might be almost ready to consider the possibility of a commited realtionship with someone else. And reading that sentance really tells me that it still scares the hell out of me! LOL geez how many more words like "think", "might", "consider" and "possibility" do you think I could have used there! So there you have it, good for you....be picky! take your time and she'll come along eventually!
Re:Just Doesn't Seem Possible To Find Someone Blueyes424: HE~
Yes, it does get better and easier. I am not going to tell you that it is going to be an easy road, because it's not, but there is someone out there that is going to find you and love you like you love them.
It may not be right away, it make take several months, maybe a year or so, but she will find you.
