Re:Just Doesn't Seem Possible To Find Someone andypandy79: I know how you feel HE. My partner of 7 years left for another guy, 4 months ago. Because she had someone straight away and I've not met anyone since, it makes you feel like you'll never meet anyone.
I can't be sure that I'll meet someone new but I figure I don't really want to straight away. Even though the time alone can be very lonely at times, I realise that all that time spent with my ex has made me so like her and I want someone to come along and love me for me, rather than the dejected ex-half-of-a-couple that I feel like right now.
The only trouble is - I don't know if I can be happy on my own! I love spending time with friends, even being at work but when there's no-one else at all then I struggle not to feel sad - I think I need a flat-mate!
Re:Just Doesn't Seem Possible To Find Someone LostTeacher: i think you really do have to be comfortable with yourself before you can move on with someone else. that you won't be able to work on a relationship with someone until you are completely over that first person. i know that my life before was defined by "us", and not by "me". now i am trying to have that "me" time. and it's good and bad at the same time. i want another relationship, but if you go looking for it, you are not going to find it. you have to let it happen.
i am still concerned that i won't find someone, but i can't worry about it too much now. i don't want a rebound relationship, and i am not in the same place that my stbxh is, because it was not my decision. even though he has been able to move on already, he had probably moved on a long time ago and i didn't know it.
but....like everyone has said..... it will happen when you least expect it.... and if you still want something like that to happen.... it will happen for you.
Re:Just Doesn't Seem Possible To Find Someone fogbud: Just go out and play right now even though I will not sleep with any of them I talking to about 3 different people! but not one of them is for me it is a start!
Re:Just Doesn't Seem Possible To Find Someone Dino: It took me a while to get to a point where I wasn't really searching for someone. I reached a point where I was happy being single and just doing whatever I wanted. It was then that I met a girl.
My confidence took a blow when my ex left and I was stuck in a rut for a long time. I can relate to your feelings. The bad times wont last.
Someone will come your way but you shouldn't be searching for them. Live your life as yourself and someone will drop into it.
