Re:19 and divorcing LostTeacher: i was married at 24, divorcing at 27. we had been together since 14. amazing that you can spend 8 years with someone, and when you finally make the commitment, it falls to pieces.
believe me, you are not alone, and it doesn't matter how old you are, divorce is divorce, and we each have to work through it.
Re:19 and divorcing Cowboy12: Welcome gmcgurl1985, you made a good move coming to this site, I am at present seperating from my wife of 7 years, we have 4 kids, she is an alcohoic, and came from an alcoholic home, she is with another alcoholic at the moment. It is so common, for people who have lived in the crazy world of addiction to marry into to it... All I would say to you is, this might be hard for you in the short term, but don't waste your life on him, especially at 19.... your too young ...it won't get any better with him TRUST ME !! ...try to go to Al-Anon for support, it will help with your past relationship's with your dad etc. and give you back your self-esteem....it's for you ..
Think of it this way, you deserve to be happy, and forget the fact of your age, you obviously didn't marry someone to split up so soon, you are not a failure...
Stick around on this site, there are some really good people here, who will help you get through this .. ;) ;) ;)
Re:19 and divorcing sigkapgirl: Hey! I know exactly where you are. I'm 22 and have been separated from my husband for 3 months. We were only married for 8 months. I know that a lot of people have looked down on me and basically said that if we hadn't gotten married so young then this wouldn't have happened because we would have known better.
I completely disagree with them. My husband and I dated for 8 years before we got married, and i KNEW that I was making the right decision. There was no doubt in my mind... until he came home one day and said that he wanted a divorce because he was having an affair with a man. I was completely floored, because even looking back, I see NO problems or indications of this at all.
My only salvation with all this is that I am so thankful that its happening early, so that i can move on with my life, and that we didn't have kids together. I have no intention of ever talking to my husband again. I haven't spoken with him in 2 months, and I haven't seen him in almost three (he didn't even tell me in person). I think that because I'm so young, its easier to just write him out of my life. Its hard, but I feel its the best decision for ME.
If you ever need someone to talk to, I completely understand where you're coming from!
Re:19 and divorcing ChiefWiggum: [quote author=sigkapgirl link=board=1;threadid=12516;start=0#msg103180 date=1117732421">
I'm 22 and have been separated from my husband for 3 months. We were only married for 8 months.
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I almost had a heart attack when I read that because that describes my stbxw exactly! I thought she found the site!
CW
