it's here!!?! teachingfool: My divorce has been final for 2 1/2 months. I was the one that left my husband of less than a year. I knew at the time we got married that it was not what I was comfortable with, but I had this amazing fear of spending the rest of my life alone. I would normally turn to my mother for advice but she passed away 8 months before my wedding date.
Enough background info....to the juice. Our wedding date was June 12th. I directed a wedding just last weekend for a good friend of mine. Now I am in this whole wedding mood and I am facing what would have been my 1 year anniversary. I am dating a wonderful guy who is also divorced and is very understanding and supportive :). I don't know if I should bury myself at home for the next 2 weeks (I am also a teacher and we are on summer break. Talk about boredom! :-\) or what I should do. I view my divorce as a failure and have anxiety issues over this point. I have an intense level of anxiety right now :'(. Anyone have any advice on how to get through the first anniversary ????
Re:it's here!!?! So_Lost: Celebrate! Im serious! Do something fun for yourself. Go somewhere you have always wanted to see. Make it a happy time for yourself, and you will forget about him.
Re:it's here!!?! sourpuss: I agree, treat yourself well. spa weekend, maybe?
celebrate all the possiblity of the future.
keep us posted.
This thing that we call 'failure' is not the falling down, but the staying down. - Mary Pickford
Re:it's here!!?! LostTeacher: my anniversary is during my summer holiday as well. it also has me a little anxious.
what i have done so far is to go out with girlfriends and celebrate whenever a significant event has had to pass. christmas was spent entirely with family. new year's i went to a social with 20 other people. his b-day and v-day i had a boy-bashing dinner. my b-day i went clubbing with friends. i find that if i am busy, and doing things for myself, the time goes by better.
i don't think that you should hide, nor do i think that you should face your divorce as a failure. think of it as a learning experience. lean on friends, family, loved ones, new love. don't hide, or think you have to hide your feeling. you are allowed to feel sad, depressed, angry....but then let it out, and move on, and try to have some fun! keep busy to keep your mind off it!!
Re:it's here!!?! teachingfool: I made it!!! I acutally spent the day with my dad (who makes it better anytime I am with him) and his new girlfriend. I and my LDR boyfriend went to lunch together and just hung out. It went much better than I thought it would. I hope I am over the largest hump now. 3 1/2 months and happy with life.
