Re:Trying to make sense of it all... loshyra: OH~
No matter what kind of message that your stbxw is giving to your daughter, you need to give her another message. Let her know that her dad loves her. That you will always be there for her. That you are her ROCK! And she will soon realize, on her own, what her mother is doing is wrong. When you are ready to move on and have another relationship...make sure that it is for you that you are doing it for, not because it is convient. Your daughter will see the difference and will realize what is going on.
Re:Trying to make sense of it all... loshyra: I guess that I should add....
I have two daughters. When the 2nd ex became abusive...and I made him leave, my daughters starting asking questions and so forth. The other day my 10 yr old came up to me and told me she was happy that P was no longer around. That she realizes that if you love someone you should not hit them. Made me cry...made me realize how smart these kids are at even that age.
You can do it!
Re:Trying to make sense of it all... oncehappy: I am fortunate that my two older sons know the whole truth and add great support for their little 10-year-old sister. They see the big picture and know the wrong in their mothers' behavior. My sons want to know the name of the guy who is dating their mother - they'll never find out from me because I don't want to have to visit them in jail for doing something violent. They are great young men (21 and 24) and do not stand down from anything.
Re:Trying to make sense of it all... loshyra: LOL!!! Sounds like my two younger brothers.....especially when they found out about the abuse. They were totally going to find him and break him in half for me....which they could since they are both alot bigger then he was.. However being the older sis I was able to talk them out of it.
It sounds like the boys love their sister. And their father. It is good that you have a support system in your family that can help you.
Re:Trying to make sense of it all... oncehappy: What does "stbxw" stand for? Sorry to be so naive...
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