Re:The new girl.. and the I love you's mydarkdreams: [quote author=Lumpy link=board=20;threadid=12555;start=0#msg103947 date=1117833026">
Dear mydarkdreams,
GET OUT!! By any means necessary. If need be throw him out. It's only going to get worse. He says he doesn't want to subject you to this? Then don't A-HOLE!!! At least set some ground rules. No calls from the g/f when your both at home. You can't start healing until you get some distance. This situation is going to leave you with some serious scars. It's bad enough to know he's with someone, it's cruel to have to watch it firsthand.
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Funny, I really hadn't thought of it as being cruel .. more as just really painful - but as I think on the word, it really really is.. she calls him on his cell phone (that is on my bill *mutter*) the apartment is in my name only, also - as he didnt work and the landlord consented to him living there but wouldnt put him on the lease (thankfully). I have tried telling him kindly to move, a few times now.. he is not receptive, at all. I just need to borrow some b@lls from someone so I can stand up to him much firmer.
Funny because usually I am not like this.. usually I don't have a lot of problem telling someone off. With him it's different - I am not sure why. Maybe the fear factor.
Re:The new girl.. and the I love you's Lumpy: Dear mydarkdreams,
Believe me I know what you're going through. Hushed cell-phone conversations in the back bedroom while I died inside sitting on the couch. Far and away the most miserable three months of my life. As daunting as the financial cost may seem the emotional one is greater. Don't pay it. Not worth it. To quote Kurt Russel from the movie "Used Cars" That price is just too f#ckin' high!
Re:The new girl.. and the I love you's mydarkdreams: [quote author=Lumpy link=board=20;threadid=12555;start=0#msg103962 date=1117835435">
Dear mydarkdreams,
Believe me I know what you're going through. Hushed cell-phone conversations in the back bedroom while I died inside sitting on the couch. Far and away the most miserable three months of my life. As daunting as the financial cost may seem the emotional one is greater. Don't pay it. Not worth it. To qoute Kurt Russel from the movie "Used Cars" That price is just too f#ckin' high!
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Thank you Lumpy - you are right of course. *hug* I am sorry you had to go through this too.. it really sucks =/
Re:The new girl.. and the I love you's jillieb44: Friends, family, church people, somebody. I ended up at my brothers. Haven't made a dime in income since last summer. Broker than broke, with debt up to my eyeballs (business but still, a business that has a negative cash flow and NONE to me).
Took me 9 months to find a place, and separate beds in the meantime, and I"m now bunking at my brother's place with my 2 kids. I had to get a new job, can't mooch off my brother forever, and it's working so well for him that he said I can stay here until I can buy a house so I don't need to rent an apartment, cuz I told him I'd rather pay him the $800 a month now that I have a job, rather than some landlord, if we weren't driving him *too* nuts. And he said we're cool. 8)
Anything has to be better than what you're doing now; it's so much easier to boot his butt -- got any friends with large husbands/boyfriends? Can you borrow a biker dude to kick your ex out? Change the locks and toss his crap on the lawn??
You deserve better than this.
Jillie
Re:The new girl.. and the I love you's Lumpy: Dear mydarkdreams,
I concur with JillieB. Prep him up a nice refrigerator box if that makes you feel better but get him the hell out! He's not considering your feelings at all. By fear factor do you mean you're physically afraid of him or are you worried about losing his friendship? If it's the latter let it go for now. If he cared about you he wouldn't field calls from her when you are in his presence. Zero consideration for your feelings.
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