Re:Access to stbxw's email... ti-poux: OMG!!!
I did that once too!!!
I felt so freakin guilty, but I did find out about tons of lies...as soon as I read the e-mails, I sent him one telling him I knew his password because if I did'nt tell him, I would have went and tortured myself over and over...so after he basicaly told me I was a freak for doing so :o, he changed his passwords...
What the hey!!! I am no freak , I was just human, and weak :)
Re:Access to stbxw's email... sourpuss: well, even if you are a freak, you're in good company ;) ;) ;)
and i felt a little guilty, but then decided that if he couldn't be bothered to feel guilty about being a jerkwad.....
Re:Access to stbxw's email... jimloveless: i used my own unscrupulous method to discover my wife's affair. yeah i felt guilty before I knew, but afterwords, I was glad that I'd found out. It gave me the strength to pick myself up and move on.
you'd think something like that would be humiliating and make the recovery process harder, but in actuality, it shined a light on the dark mystery surrounding our separation... all my doubts were justified... all the times my heart cried out "something ain't right, dude"... it wasn't me being overbearing or jealous or controlling. It was my gut trying to tell me how it was.
Nobody likes to be ignorant, but sometimes life is easier in ignorance. I like life to be easy, but I'd rather know, myself.
Re:Access to stbxw's email... oncehappy: I was
actually doing really good for several months and didn't check - whoops!! I know I can leave it alone and - you are right - it only hurts more... Thanks for the input! Gotta move on...
Re:Access to stbxw's email... kfc75: its like pandoras box, once you look you can't stop. I heard my stbx having phone sex, I only needed to listen for 2 minutes to know what was going on, but I couldn't stop even though it was like having a stake smashed into my heart with every word. You know the truth let it go or it will consume you.
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