is he really over me or is there any hope? A25: my boyfriend and i broke up b/c after a year, he got scared b/c people were asking him if our relationship was going to the next step. i was his first real girlfriend ever - we were both 23 when we started dating. I had boyfriends before but this was the first serious one. I still love him so much but he started having doubts about the relationship b/c he wanted to see what else was out there...to have some space for a while. he said he loved me and didn't want to hurt me. I said we would have to see other people if that was how he felt, and he sounded reluctant as he agreed, but then also said that maybe he wasn't completely in love with me if he was curious about other girls. since the breakup, i know he has been meeting other girls for the past 2 1/2 months but he hasn't found anyone yet that he likes. he also keeps telling me he isn't going to settle down with anyone for a long time b/c he just needs to be single. he has shown over this bad breakup time so much love and caring for me...it is soo hard b/c i have nothing to be angry at him for, nothing to hate him for. I just love him with all my heart and I'm wondering if there is still a chance for us to get back together? can someone really take a break from someone, see what else is out there and come back? i know if it does happen that i shouldn't take him back so easily...and in the meantime I'm trying to get on with my life, even have begun dating again. but i still wonder...one of the girls he went out with even gave him a hard time for not being over me, b/c apparently he talked a lot about me on their first date and even had my picture up on his online profile on a dating website! (after the girl he was seeing pressured him, he took it down, but still broke things off with her) so maybe I'm being too hopeful, but I feel like it's possible...am I delusional or does it sound like he is still mixed-up? the other thing he keeps telling me is that when i start to feel better (i've been really depressed and he's been very supportive), he knows that we'll be back in each other's lives in some way - but when i asked him in what way, he won't respond, or he'll say he's just not sure yet. hmmm...i'll give him his space but it's hard not to hold on...any thoughts out there?
Re:is he really over me or is there any hope? cosettie76: There are too many single people in the world to get all tied up in knots about one of them. Take care of you, and he will solve whatever problems need to be solved. That does mean that maybe the relationship is over. That's okay. Friendships are great. So are hobbies. And pets. Pick up a new hobby or pet. I loved being single when I was single. It's a lot of fun. You have a lot of freedom to try out a lot of things. Don't limit yourself. Think of doing something... different. For you.
Re:is he really over me or is there any hope? mine: hi...
read some of my posts...they will probably help
Re:is he really over me or is there any hope? jillieb44: He's young and doesn't yet know what he wants, and needs time to find out. Trust me, it's better that he does this now. If he finds his way back to you, great. If not, it wasn't meant to be. In the meantime, live your life to the fullest. Get out there, follow your own passions and dreams, whatevery they are, meet people, and live.
You both are young.
Not that waiting until you're 29 means your marriage will last either (oh, well, LOL) but if he's not ready to settle down, then he's not ready.
Jillie
Re:is he really over me or is there any hope? riversandlakes:
you're watching over him too much, while he was not doing the same at all for you. he broke it off, pretended to be reluctant to do it, played the innocent "don't want to hurt you" (then why this crap?) and went on a spree of dates.
hoping to find Ms. Right within the space of 2 1/2 months?! being realistic, i think that takes much longer than that. can you wait that long?
and would you be used as a Plan B if he failed in the end, after 1/2/4/8 years? is it fair to you?
this little boy is not worth your attention. love carefully, dear, and when you found that one who loves you as much as you do him, don't let him go...
