I'm Dying Inside marianne1966: If anyone has any advice I would appreciate it. I've been involved with a guy for 4 years. We have had some terrible times. He has abused me in the past and he drinks allot. In the last couple of years I thought things were getting better. About a month ago he started picking up his drinking again. I was going to let him move in, but I just didn't feel it was time. I left for out of town for work and before I left I told him I think we needed a break. In this process he is now seeing a different woman and he is flaunting her in front of me. He is telling me he still loves me, but he stays at her house at night. He says he doesn't know what he wants. Through everything he has done to me and for the many times I took him back I thought I would have no problem leaving him. It's been horrible. I can't eat, sleep or think. When I do eat I vomit it up. I'm a complete wreck. I drive by her house at night to see if he is there. What should I do? I'm dying inside. I'm so scared. Not only did I relize how much I do love him, but I also miss him. Should I give him this time he needs? I'm dealing with allot of other issues in my life besides this one. My daughter just graduated high school and is leaving home. I have no clue what its like to be alone and it scares the living shit out of me. Please help anyone?
Re:I'm Dying Inside WhiskeyGirl: [quote"> [/quote"> We have had some terrible times. He has abused me in the past and he drinks allot.
I'm sorry girl.....but let the new girl have him! You deserve better, and if you give yourself time you WILL have better!
Re:I'm Dying Inside Pumpkin: I agree - you should try to remember back to the bad times so that you will see that it is probably for the best this way. I know it's so hard b/c I went through feeling dead inside, too. Had no appetite and couldn't sleep....it does get better, though. Keep in contact with friends and family, as it is rough to be lonely. Remember however that this is temporary until you will find someone much better....you will thank yourself later for making that choice...
Re:I'm Dying Inside MVJ: My advice is to do the opposite of what you are doing right now. Meaning instead of driving by her house, don't drive by( you know there's no point deep down inside, and you're wasting gas). Instead of remembering the good times (if there even were any, remember all the times he hurt you, remember how he disgraces you still).
By holding on to him, it only prolongs the inevitable, the you have to move on, and quickly.
It is natural to want to hold on to what you had, but honestly you know that what you had wasn't great. Start hanging up on him if he calls, right in the middle of his speech! Block his number if you can.
Remember anyone that ever digrades you or treats you sh*ttily when you are together doesn't even deserve the spit you should spit at them!
Find a hobby(martial arts is great for stress ;D), get some friends together and start going out at nights(especially those nights you are at your lowest- I know it will be hard but it will help sooner than you know), dancing, or even karaoke bars :-X. Avoid drive bys or phone calls by going online and find some interesting chat sites to kill some of that time you would spend agonizing over this loser.
Pretty soon you'll realize that you're life is so much more without him. Remember, fill up your schedule with things to do, so that you're not sitting around!
Example (dye your hair a new color, get a haircut, throw out all items ever given by him, paint your room a different color if it reminds you of him in any way, get new lingerie! :o get busy ::))
Hope this helps! Get a chat buddy if you need one.
Re:I'm Dying Inside matt: From the way you described him, i know it might be difficult for some people to even understand why you would want him back. But human emotion is difficult to understand. You don't say why you miss him or love him so much? Anyway, i would say that unless this girl he is with is a violent person who drinks alot, it won't be long until she kicks his but out. A lepoard doesn't change his spots. You sound like a good person, much to good to put up with his crap. My advice, go out have fun with your friends, go to a movie or a ball game. Hopefully you'll see that you deserve better. Don't be lonely, go out get involved. Above all, don't under any circumstances let this guy know you even care.
