Calling all Guys - Identity Crises achingallover: o.k, guys, I started this thread in hopes that I can learn more about the male identity crises. Time and time again, I have read on this site (and I think this is happening with my stbx) about the guys who bailed out of the marriage due to identity crises. Or maybe there are those of you who stayed in the marriage while having an identity crises. I don't know, as I've only heard about the ones who bailed on this site. I am wondering if any of you guys who may have gone through this or who maybe have friends who have gone through this can help me understand what is going on? What it feels like? What are the issues at hand? What is so scarey? I am gathering this happens quite frequently between the ages of 30-40. I am truely not judging anyone here - honestly - I am just trying to understand what's going on from the guys point of view on this, as I myself can only have the girls for obvious reasons!
Thanks for your willingness to help me explore this! Any info would be GREATLY appreciated! :D
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Steph
Re: Calling all Guys - Identity Crises galil: Never had it happen to me :-/
Re: Calling all Guys - Identity Crises hurtingverymuch: Great thread, achy!
I'm interested in seeing the posts, especially when I think this is what's happening with my s2bx.
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Hurt
Re: Calling all Guys - Identity Crises achingallover: Thanks hurting...I figured with all the folks on here, we might be able to help each other learn something valuable about the opposite sex!
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Re: Calling all Guys - Identity Crises jdawg2:
Hi,
Read your post...I've been separated about a year now and went through some identity stuff for awhile. It hit shortly after we moved in to a new house. I honestly felt overwhelmed as my s2bx had a tough past and was dealing with a lot of emotional problems. Between money, a new job and long commute, and abuse from my past I broke down. I took her to a therapist for help and eventually saw the therapist myself. We tried to help each other but it just didn't work. The only advice I could offer is talk with him, ask him to get help and see the therapist as well to find out what's going on. marriage was a much bigger adjustment than I thought, though I was ready. I always thought it was for better or worse, I know now some people are not geared for that though. Either way try to get his perspective from a good therpist, might offer you some insight as to what's going on.
best of luck!
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