Took down all the pictures MsLonely: Yep, I did it. All the pictures that were just of him or just the two o us (like our wedding and my prom) I put away and the "family" pictures I put in the girls' rooms. I still have a few to take out of some of the photo collage things we have up on the walls, but I will do that this weekend when I have time to replace them with other pictures. He is coming over this afternoon and I want to see what he says. Also, we havea digital camera and when I download them on to the computer they become our screen saver. I took out all the pictures of him and put them in a separate folder so that we still have them, they just won't constantly be displayed on the computer screen.
It feels really good. Even though I will always be willing to work things out for the kids if he ver decides to come to his senses I am done chasing him and trying to hold on to him. I'm not waiting for him anymore. I am going to move on with my life. Its all on him now. I had kept his stuff around and kept the pictures up because my understanding of this seperation was that it was going to be short term while we worked things out. Now that I have learned he never had any intention of working things out or coming back I have no purpose for it anymore.
He probably will say nothing at all of his pictures being down. But he might ask why. If he does I will simply ask him how many pictures of me he possess let alone hangs around his apartment. I will tell him that since he has expressed he has no intention of ever coming back then his pictures have no place here. Even if he doesn't say anything I know he will either take it as a sign I am beggining to move on (even though our 4 year old told him yesterday on the phone that I had been crying for him- kids say they darndest things) or take it as I am trying to piss him off.
Re:Took down all the pictures MadorSad: Hang in there this is just the first step on a long road and sounds like you are doing this for the right reason ? Well thought out and not done in anger good for you
MoS
Re:Took down all the pictures Beren: [quote author=MsLonely link=board=13;threadid=13000;start=0#msg107334 date=1118431315">
If he does I will simply ask him how many pictures of me he possess let alone hangs around his apartment. [/quote">
I suppose many people here would be surprised to find that I have two pictures of my ex hanging in my apartment. I have a picture taken at our wedding, and a picture I had someone take of us when we went out for drinks after our divorce was final. I hung them up above my toilet. Between the two pictures, I hung our Decree of Dissolution.
Call me weird, but it just seemed like the right way to express both my feelings of fondness and regret, and to do it with humor. :)
Beren
Re:Took down all the pictures MsLonely: But you see I know the answer to this question is NONE. he took no pictures with him when he left except some that were on refrigerator magnets of our oldest daughter. He doesn't even have any of our youngest daughter except for the one I made for him for father's day that I will give to him on Sunday.
Re:Took down all the pictures Beren: Oh, it was just an aside. Not trying to compare my story with yours. You just reminded me, that's all. :)
I'm sorry about your situation, though. :(
Beren
