Re:I just really don't know what to believe Samarra: Complain away anytime...we're all here to listen and to help.
Take it from someone who knows firsthand. This is hard for me to write...but if it helps at all it's worth it.
I was addicted to heroin when I was married...at the age of 22 to 28. My xh brought the drugs into our lives...but Itake full responsibility for my addiction.
Someone who's brain is fogged by chemicals is not themselves and CANNOT think straight. Don't listen to them or try to reason...you're talking to a stranger.
Right now he is lost to you...and to himself...he is with the OW simply because...and please hear this...misery loves company. It has NOTHINGto do with you and everything to do with him. Until and unless he seeks help...try to take care of you. If you need to talk...please PM me...any way I can help I will.
Re:I just really don't know what to believe MsLonely: Its the drugs! Drugs are horrible horrible things and they will destroy the user and everyone around them. My husband was at one time addicted to meth and it was like he had been possessed. He would do absolutely anything to get his drugs and keep everyone from knowing so that they weren't able to prevent him from using. 3 years after he stopped using he is still not the same person. I am in a psychology class right now and we are learning about the affects of drugs. They have pictures of brain scans of FORMER drug addicts and their brains are irreversibly damaged. Don't take anything he says or does personally. It is 100% the drugs talking.
Re:I just really don't know what to believe MsLonely: I also wanted to add that there was abreif time I was using cocaine. Like the PP he brought it into ourlives and convinced me to use it but it was ultimately my choice. One night when we are using we video taped ourselves just talking and singing and rapping and dancing and when I was sober I watched the tape and I was so completely embarrassed at what I did and said that it was painful to watch the tape and I had to destroy it. I have remained sober to this day.
Re:I just really don't know what to believe Samarra: Just an aside to MsLonely...Congratulations on your sobriety hon. We all falter...we all fail...if we come through we're extremely lucky. Glad you did!
Re:I just really don't know what to believe mine: any one with deep rooted problems....or addictions....usually blames somone else for their problems.....
therefore they dont have to deal with it themselves
he will feel more comfortable with anothe rdrug user...
and once again ...he is not really dealing with the problem
easy way out...............
