divorce over(abuse)can't forgive or forget! Sandals: :'(I was trying to think of some way to keep the bad memories from coming back) then I got a idea I was alone and had a couple of beers -I started taping my self talking about every bad thing I could remember him doing to me. When I was all done -I listened to it the next day and had a good cry(Ifelt much better).
Sandals
Re:divorce over(abuse)can't forgive or forget! Samarra: Hi Sandals, :)
I'm sorry you're feeling so bad...but that was a great idea you had. Aah what a couple of beers can do to clear the ole cobwebs! (just joking) Seriously though...if more people would start remembering the reasons Why they left and stopped romanticizing the good ones...moving on would so much easier. Glad that made you feel better hon...whatever works (within reason) Cheers!
Re: divorce over(abuse)can't forgive or forget! ithurts: I'm going thru a divorce right now. i just found out my wife took all the money from my equity line. i moved out 4 months ago, with the intention of trying to work things out without laywers. not going to happen. she has been leaving me text mess that make no sense. i just got home opened my e-mail & she is telling me she has Herpes from me. this is horrible because I don't & i have never cheated on my wife, but she accuses me of it all the time. the worst part of this is i'm a Christian Man & she is telling all my friends from our church that i gave her this. I don't no if i should believe that she even went to the doctors. plus we have not been together for 3 months. bi-polar seems to accuse the other of what they might be doing. I really don't know what to think anymore as she is some one i don't even seem to know. my marriage has put me under so much stress that i look warn out. it looks like it is going to get worse. i am not communicating with her at all as i have been told not to. This is to keep me safe. She has started alot of rumors. I'm putting my trust in the Lord, that he will keep me safe through this Divorce. I know it will be the best thing i ever did for myself. Who can help me
Re: divorce over(abuse)can't forgive or forget! WhiskeyGirl: I have always kept a journal so all my feelings and everything that happened throughout my marriage is written down there. Its unbelievable how many times I came so close to taking my ex back and suddenly stumbled across my journal. I would read it and all the pain would come crashing back, out went the mushy feelings and hope for reconciliation and back came my strength!!! Its painfull to look back but sometimes its just what you need.
Re: divorce over(abuse)can't forgive or forget! Samarra: Whiskeygirl this is great advice...amazing how such a simple thing (journaling) is often overlooked.
Joining support groups is also beneficial....does the church you attend have anything like this?
Don't worry about the rumors your wife is spreading..I'm sure anyone that knows you won't believe it. Unfortunately people always judge...the ones that do are not your friends and don't deserve your thoughts or energy. Keep doing whatever is necessary to maintain your sanity through this.
Worry about you.
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