Didn't waste any time!!! MCO552: Our divorce hearing is set for June 30th and our closing day on our house is July 15th.....but do you think that my inconsiderate STBX could have at least waited until 1) our divorce was final or better yet 2) waited until we moved to our separate apartments BEFORE having sex with another guy???? I just found out tonight that she's already seeing another guy and I came across her instant message conversation with him. It wasn't pretty!!! It totally reminded me of how we met and how she lured me into her web. Making me think she's this wonderful person whom I could fall in love with and live happily ever after. 2 years later and I feel like I've been used and betrayed.
Part of me is mad at myself for seeking out this info (but I was just WAY too curious to know what she's been doing these past few nights away from home). Part of me feels sorry for the schmuck that she's luring into her web (he has NO idea what he's in store for - manic depression, mood swings, split personality, the list goes on and on). And of course, I'm really disappointed in my ex. Up to this point, our divorce was very civil (a few arguments here and there but nothing major). We had even talked about 'being friends' after the divorce....well, all of that is out the window. There's no way I can even stand to look or talk to her now (but unfortunately, we still have another month before we move out).
And I guess what makes me the most mad is that just when you think you really know a person, they go and pull a 180 on you. Is there anyone in this world you can truly trust but yourself?????
>:(
Re:Didn't waste any time!!! gumby55555: [quote author=MCO552 link=board=20;threadid=13021;start=0#msg107576 date=1118458719">
And I guess what makes me the most mad is that just when you think you really know a person, they go and pull a 180 on you. Is there anyone in this world you can truly trust but yourself?????
[/quote">
I tell ya, that's exactly what I think about ALL the time now. It's so hard trusting someone else and opening up... I keep thinking of the impernanence of it all and wonder if anyone really will stay forever and be trustworthy... it messes with you. All this by way of saying I feel where you're coming from, my friend... I'm very sorry you have to go through this but hang in there. It does get better... and, who knows, maybe one day the trust in others returns, as well... all the best!
Re:Didn't waste any time!!! betrayed: That sucks.....sounds like you are getting rid of a real problem child to me. My personal input is my ex had an affair, I found out, she divorced me, (by the way telling me the opposite and making up with me via sex while she laid her web with this other guy at the same time)and immediately married her affair on the first day she could legally....so don't think I don't understand your disgust with her and the feelings of misplaced trust. We had two kids, house w/ pool, families, friends, investments etc.....All down the toilet. MY POINT IS: I survived and am thriving, I still believe there are trustworthy women out there....by the way the ones that sleep with you immediately ARE NOT TRUSTWORTHY....ever NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY. So get divorced take your time to grieve, and accept, then LIVE, LOVE, AND TRUST AGAIN. You can do it.....and some casual sex....(not trust and love) would probably do you some good in the power and self esteem department.....it was a good prescription for me. Just make sure you spank them for being bad girls while you do it...LOL hang in there and always keep your cool.
Re:Didn't waste any time!!! dazedanddivorcing: MCO552--
Sounds like this is the kind of woman who NEEDS a man to make up for some of her own shortcomings.
Also sounds like that marriage was a LOT of work.
Are you wore out?????????????
Re:Didn't waste any time!!! lghawaiian: MCO,
WOW. I never thought I would find somone with a situation that mirrors mine almost exactly. My STBX waited a whole 4 days after out emotional separation before sleeping with AND moving in with another man. Here's the next kick: said other man was someone I considered a friend. It helps me to know that someone else knows what I am going through, take solace in the fact that we are brothers in pain. I will tell you that your best bet is to surround yourself with friends and family, as I have, and to expidite the process of divorce, as you obviously are done with her. I offered to maintain a friendship as you did, but not when this happened. She has been cold, cruel and vindictive ever since, trying to blame everything on me. If her shortcomings bother her so much, she can take that baggage to the poor schmuck. I sure as hell don't need it anylonger.
