Re:Why do I always put my foot in it?!? Spectrum: Well, it was rather unfortunate.... He gave me his cell # to call him and tell him when I was ready to go do dinner. I should have just knocked on his door, but I was too lazy. Ugh.
That is definitely the down side to using your cell phone as your home phone. Any time you call someone with a cell phone, they have your number.
Spectrum.
Ah yes, and the saga continues..... Spectrum: So get this.....
I just got a voicemail from Mr. Neighbor, stating again that he would like to talk to me about something and (somewhat insistently) stating that he really wants to see me this weekend.
I called him back and told him I was just heading out to the dog park with my dog, and that maybe we could hang out by the pool tomorrow afternoon for a bit. I figured that would give me a nice public opportunity to talk to him where there couldn't be any scene (not that I think there would be, but just in case).
I got off the phone and a little while later when I opened my door to walk my dog, there was a card outside on the mat. It was one of those "You are special"-type cards, and he had written inside, "Thank you so much for our date, I enjoyed your company more than I can express with words. You have been on my mind since then and you are giving me a feeling I've never felt (I can explain that when I see you). I don't want to appear too forward, however I would be honored and blessed if you will be my girlfriend. Please come by and talk to me when you read this. Thank you, *****."
I put my dog back in the apartment and walked down to knock on his door.
I explained that I had just been in two rather painful relationships, the most recent of which just ended a few weeks ago. I also added that we had only been out on one date, and that I'm not in a place in my life where I want to be committing to anyone other than myself. I explained that I am working on putting my life together right now and need to spend my limited free time concentrating on that. I also said that at my previous apartment complex I had issues with a couple guys following me around, and that I didn't want to run into a similar problem here.
He was very nice and understanding. I told him firmly I'd talk to him tomorrow afternoon and to have a good evening.
I'm going to test the water here. If he can handle not contacting me until tomorrow afternoon, then we can continue to hang out periodically. If not, then I'm going to just tell him that I'm feeling uncomfortable and that I don't feel it is appropriate for us to see each other anymore.
I feel bad for this guy, and I'm willing to give him the opportunity to be friends if he can handle it after our talk. If he can't, well, I'll just have to take a different tack.
Your thoughts?
Spectrum.
Re:Why do I always put my foot in it?!? Dino: good move, well handled i think
just wait and see if he is a big boy or not
Re:Why do I always put my foot in it?!? Cowboy12: yeah good move Spetrum.... I'm glad you didn't give him any ultimatums etc. and you spoke honestly which was the best policy... I worry sometimes, that when I finally get my seperation, I will act too needy, or jump like this guy did for the first woman to show an interest in me... I guess all of us, take a battering in the self-esteem stakes, and we struggle with lonliness, and as a result we come across too needy when meeting new people.... I hope, this guy lays off for a while, and maybe you guys can become friends ....I'm sure he could use one.... I plan to move into an apartment next feb, I am scared stiff.... I was used to living in a nice home with my wife and 4 kids... at present I am sharing with my sister and a guy .. it is for me a good transition period where I can adjust to single life without the lonliness .....hope it all works out with you...
Re:Why do I always put my foot in it?!? twobeautifulkids: You handled the situation well! Please keep us posted!
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