Wait? sacoderisa: Guys, this is just dumb. We had an email fight with her friend. She told me that she is not good for me, i told her she wasn't good for her! At the end. well, I am still talkin to x. We had a good discussion. I asked what was it that drove her away. And she couldn't come up with anything. (as you might now, she don't really care for hurtin me with something she says, so i know it was true). So, i came up with her solution, I asked "Did you just leave because you were afraid of commitment?" To which she replied. "I just don't see myself as a housewife". There it lies. The truth at last. Now i know why even though she says she don't love me, she calls me every day, comes and spends the night at my house, we have sex from time to time and we kiss every blue moon. Because she does likes me, but she don't want to be mrs G. So, I also deducted, and she thought i was right about it, that since her friends were the ones that drove her away from me, because they showed her how "happy" you can be when you are single.
Even yesterday, a mutual friend who was going trough some trouble, called me "her hubby". To which she replied "He wishes!" and promptly hugged me and gave me a quick kiss on the cheek. But then on the car when we were driving to my softball game, she said jokingly, "how you doing hubby?". Every single person i know, tells me she will come around. IF i make her miss me. However, having the friends she has. They will make sure that she won't miss me. As i have seen before, they hook her up with fairly good looking guys, but all of them have slept with as many women as the day is long. So, the fear is for her to end up with someone who will treat her like crap. And that she will introduce someone like that to my daughter. On the other hand, by being with her every day. (trust me, she comes by or calls me to go to her place every day) I stop her from being with her friends........what am I to do? We are so happy when we are togheter. But I get so sad when is time to say good bye.
Re:Wait? Samarra: No...no...no. This is not right...and I think deep down you know this too, otherwise, you woudn't sound so conflicted,
She doesn't want to be fully with you in a committed relationship...but hey...she'll stop by now and again to have sex with you.
Cut it off. I have read your posts and have seen you go from happy to sad...why do you think that is?
You're letting her have all the benefits of a relationship with you...without all the real work. Sorry to have to burst anyones' bubble...but good, fullfilling. healthy relationships are work. But it is so worth it! Please step back and see your true worth...she doesn't.
Re:Wait? sacoderisa: the hardest part of all of this is that i know you are right!
Re:Wait? Samarra: It really is like you said in your last post. It's easy to give advice but hard to take it.
Hope I didn't sound too harsh...but maybe if people keep telling you what you know to be true...you'll start to believe it to the point that it may give you the strength you need to pull away from this one-sided relationship.
Don't get upset with yourself either because you're finding it difficult to walk away from someone you love.
You know what that means? You're a great guy...but...you need someone who can see that and respond in kind...not someone who takes advantage of it.
Don't feel bad...in fact smile. We're all here with you going through the same thing. It's merely a temporary (although sh**ty) situation.
