New around here genesplicer: Hey everybody, I've been lurking around these boards for a few weeks now and wanted to start by saying that this is a great site and an even better group of people.
Well, here goes with my story. I've been with my stbxh for just under 10 years, and we've been married for 4. We met in high school, went to college together, then got married. 4 weeks ago, he announced that he had gotten an apartment and was moving out. After talking to him for a little bit about why, the best answer I could get was that he "had changed alot and was a very different person" and that he just didn't have the same feelings that he did when we got married. He doesn't want to have anything to do with going for counselling or trying anything else to see if we can work through things.
So after hearing that and since he'd been planning long enough to have an apartment, I asked him to leave. He came back a week later to get his stuff, and I really haven't seen him since then. We've only spoken briefly to start figuring out what has to be split / happen next.
I'm pretty much at a loss for why this happened, and don't really have a clue about how to start picking up the pieces. He was my best friend, and pretty much all of "our" friends are really his friends now that this has happened.
Just taking it one day at a time for now I guess, feels a little better just getting it all out.
Re:New around here sheydp: Oh, I am so sorry this happened... You sound so calm! You have had to let go without understanding why! You seem to be doing a remarkable job of it, but I know it must be very difficult. Stay strong, stay here - post more!
Shey
Re:New around here slowlearner: Hi gene (lol, say that out loud)
Welcome to Ojar and I'm sorry you had to find us. As you've been lurking for a few weeks, you've probably read some similar stories, where a partner just ups and leaves and never really says why. ???
Keep reading, keep posting, and one step at a time you'll be able to put the pieces back together.
Take care of yourself, and use these boards as much as you need to, it'll help you to talk to someone about all the things that are happening.
Re:New around here mydarkdreams: How confusing and heartwrenching. I am sorry you are going through this.. but glad you have found your way here. Everyone here is great -- I hope you find answers and closure *hug*
Re:New around here twobeautifulkids: Sorry you had to come here, but glad you found us! I hope we can offer support to you during this difficult time. ((HUGS))
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