common ground lost? EssieDotCom: :'( For years my husband and I have always had so much in common, even after we were married for a good 6 yrs we still finished each other sentences. But now, nothing, it seems like in the last year and we've been married for 8 yrs, that we can't even finish each other sentences anymore. So much does not feel or seem right, but yet i love him strongly, maybe not as strongly as before. I'm just having a hard time dealing with all of this hitting me at once. So much common ground is lost that we don't really have anything in common anymore... anyone else ever been in these shoes?... i'm so confused in what to do. I know that he wants to seperate but i'm getting so many cross connecting messages from him. please help! :'( thankz
Re:common ground lost? AmyMarie1972: Yes we went through that stage about 6 months ago. I suggested counselling to him but he refused to go and left in February.
All that you can do is to suggest that you both try and seek help to save your marriage. Then at least you will both know that you have tried everything.
Of course if he chooses not to go there is not much that you can do to make him.
Take care and good luck
Amy
Re:common ground lost? EssieDotCom: no, i've already been through that cycle as well, I ask him to go to couseling with me and his reply was "it's too late for us'. i tried hard and was presistant, but then I thought about it long and hard. and if he is not willing to care enough to try then it's not worth us going, it's a waste of money. I can do better than all of this, i just wish I could fix all the broken pieces. :'(
