Depression caused by a break up frodo:
Hey,
This is my first post on here. I came across this site becuase I was tyring to find something to comfort me. My name is Brandon and Im 19. My boyfriend broke up with me in the begining of May because he said his feelings had changed. Now we had been living together at my mom's house since we met at the begining of January. Our relationship was never a great one and there were a lot of things that we disagreed on and we faught a lot. It's just we did so many things together and I quit my job at the theatre to spend more time with him and he told me since he worked that he would just give me the money he made because his dad has lots of money. He just recently moved out a few weeks ago and we have been fighting,crying about this since he told me at the begiing of May. Just the other day I felt fine with being his friend and things finally worked out and I was so happy, but last night I spent the night at his house and we had sex and it's not that I still wannabe in a relationship with him it's just that he acts so differently towards me now. He hung out with only me during our relationship and complained always about me having friends and him having none, and this continued on even after our relationship him saying I was leaving him all alone when I would go out of town until now. On Sunday (the 5th) he told me how he didn't like hanging out with his friend dalia anymore and how we needed to get new friends, but as soon as I came back from out of town and I didn't talk to him for a day (because he was mad that i went out of town) he is hanging out with her all the time now. For example after spending the night at his house last night, today before he went to work I asked him to call me, and just now I got off the phone with him and told him i had my phone off. I proceeded to ask him if he had called and he said "no I didn't call and *laughed* ", and he was talking about how he was waiting for dalia to call him.
It's just I felt like he wouldn't have called me at all tonight if I hadn't have called him, and that hurt me. I know a relationship with him would not work, but I can't seem to deal with the way he has changed towards me. I'm very upset right now but I couldn't tell him on the phone because I dont wanna mess up being friends with him, because he just doesn't talk about feelings. I just feel so trapped because I dont wanna not have him in my life but I dont know if I can deal with the way he has changed towards me. Yes, I have thought about not being friends with him but the jealousy of him doing stuff without me burns me so bad and the thought of him evolving into not caring about me at all if we weren't talking makes me so sad.
He used to be so devoted to me and I was his everything in life. I just dont know why his feelings had to change and why am I the one who's depressed now and he isn't. Is he even thinking about us driving around. Please help me I feel so trapped because I have grown so dependent on him. :'(
Re:Depression caused by a break up mydarkdreams: Welcome to Ojar.
First, you need to find something to do for yourself, something to pour yourself into - what about getting another job - then you could be financially not dependant on your ex.. sometimes, in the beginning, being friends hurts too much - but in the end it can work.. maybe you need space from that so you don't end up hurting yourself over and over again..
Good luck to you.
