I asked to see him for our anniversary francesca: I did something really bold today. i texted my STBXH and asked him what he was doing thurs. (It would have been our 5 yr anniversary). He said nothing. I asked if he wanted to see me, and he waited but said he would call me. Finally, I said, I'm confused, call me now or next week? He said, yes, i will see you this week.
I'm astounded, happy, terrified! Just a little background, we've been seperated since January this year and we just signed the sep. agreement last week. Things move slow in Jersey!
So what do you think? How should I act? What should I wear? I'd love another chance with him, but I know he is so rigid, so black/white, and the few times I have broken down to get him back hasn't worked. I've just had my heart broken YET another time. PLUS he is very persuaded by his friends/family who I know do not approve of the marriage. Truth is I never wanted a divorce--he pushed for it.
Advice is greatly appreciated here!!!! :)
Re:I asked to see him for our anniversary LostTeacher: i would have to agree here. what do you really, honestly think that you are going to gain out of this?
i know that i would be feeling the same as you, that if he said that he would talk to me, that it means that he wants to work. but i know my stbxh well enough to know that it will not matter now how many tears i shed in front of him, he has made up his mind, and i can't do a darn thing about it.
so, as someone who is honestly looking out for you, don't you think that there is something else you could be doing on the night of your past-anniversary? i know that this is a date that i am dreading....as it is coming up for me in july. i am a little lucky that during the day i will be busy administering exams in summer school. but in the evening is probably when it will really hit. and i am already trying to figure out things to do while this day comes and goes.
just really, honestly think about this choice. if you really need to do it, no one is going to stop you. they just worry for you, and don't want you to go through more pain than you need to.
Re:I asked to see him for our anniversary BabygirlM: ditto....be careful
Re:I asked to see him for our anniversary twobeautifulkids: I wish you luck, but be careful. Don't get your hopes up.
I actually requested exactly the opposite...I didn't want to see or hear from him on our anniversary. Then again our 13th anniversary would have been two weeks after he left, so the wounds were really new.
Re:I asked to see him for our anniversary francesca: I hear you all on being careful not to be too hopeful, and especially with a man who seemingly has made up his mind about us. I guess I'm a little hopeful b/c things aren't finalized between us. Pretty pathetic, huh?
It must not be a 'good' thing since I am not sharing this piece of information with a lot of close friends of mine. I'm sure they would tell me the same...they know the story inside out. I think they would take a frying pan to my head if they knew I was going to meet up with him, lol :) Prob b/c they are sick of hearing my sob stories. Just joking.
It's a few days away so I have some time to think about it. Thanks for all your concern and advice!!!
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