Re:Still in so much pain mydarkdreams: [quote author=Mike link=board=1;threadid=13065;start=0#msg108043 date=1118618130">
Thank you for your advice. All the posts I read here continue to give me strength. It is unpleasant but nice to see that so many others feel this terrible pain. She continues to tell me that she will always have strong feelings for me and that she insists that if my health fails again that she needs to be there to make sure that I am well cared for. Her feelings for me are still very strong and it can be seen easily somedays and she breaks down into a terrible mess. She has also told me that she hates the idea of me being with any woman but her but if I find someone that I have feelings for then I need to go for it and find out if I really love her to. She also has asked that we both keep our options open. She said that if we both find that we need one another then perhaps we can start over by dating and seeking councling. She has told me also that if I were to find that special person who I can love with all of my heart and she does not then she will have to accept her mistake and live with it. We will see though! we have only been apart (but living in the same house most days) for 10 days. Our feelings may easily switch for the worse or better in 20 or 60 days. Anywho thanks for letting me talk about this with you. It always feels better to talk about it.
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sweetie, it sounds like she is stringing you along by feeding your hope that you might one day get back together -- feeding these hopes for herself because if things don't work out for her wherever she is going, she can always "fall back" with you.. not fair to you.
Hopefully when she does get out, the distance will be enough for you to begin to heal *big hug*
Re:Still in so much pain riversandlakes:
mydarkdreams is right. what she said sounds so familiar, yet again from a script.
tryingn to have the cake and eat it too. would you allow yourself to be treated as such? don't you deserve better?
you don't have to cut the skin to know it will bleed. "space and time" is something i shall never accept ever again.
Re:Still in so much pain Mike: After my last post it would seem as if her plans to move are falling apart! He, as it turns out has more than one lady friend!!! He may shaft her and she is now scared that she is stuck! I said tooo freaking bad, I am moving on with my plans. So sorry and take care woman. You choice not mine
Re:Still in so much pain Dino: good stuff mike. stay strong and do your own thing. don't let her suck you back in. especially now that things seem rocky for her and this guy, you can't possibly let her back in your life
Re:Still in so much pain Cowboy12: yeah, Mike I tend to agree with Dino and the others here, you were just her PLAN B, she left you emotionally, and her stringing you along was only to appease her guilt. I think if you were reading this story and it was someone else's you would be advising them to stay firm with their decision ...move on man at least for 6 months or so ...by then you can heal a bit and re-evaluate whether or not you want her back.
