"I don't know why I can't!!" penguinMAMA: Just a venting board here and a huge chunk of frustration for a continuing situation. Please can someone explain why a charming young mom of 1 adorable little girl submit herself and her daughter to continual degrading, belittling, emotional abuse and titter on the virge of sexual abuse at the hands of the baby's father? Why does she stay with him? He taught the 2 year old to say five dollar s*cky s*cky thinking it cute. He yelled at the mom because she took the girl to church stating that Sunday was his day with his daughter. The girl learned the song Jesus loves me and he told he "no he doesn't...he's dead." He sits in front of his computer from the time he wakes up on his days off until he crashes, paying no attention to anyone except his game on the computer, not even his daughter. She's like a little Matilda, getting her own diaper pull up, getting her own drink and doing anything she wants if her Mom is at the store.
How far is this going to go? When will she leave him? I ask her why and she says " I know what I need to do but I don't know why I can't do it!". I go as far as to inquire if he has something over her head she may be ashamed of or if she feels he will challenge custody (they aren't married but she does have full custody...he fought that he was the father and did the paternity test to prove what a pri*k he was) or if she really loves him and if so do I need to file for custody to relieve him of the issues of the baby that are offensive to him and she can live there and have visitation for her daughter. This may sound extreme but I said I was venting and am about as angry at her as him for staying in the situation and submitting the baby to idiotic ideas about becoming a 3 year old prostitute.Wheeeew!! I feel a little better. Thanks ojar!
Re:"I don't know why I can't!!" Blueyes424: Mama,
There is going to come a time when she breaks, and as much as we (u me and Bubba and everybody else) want to help push her to what she knows she needs to do, the only thing at this point that we CAN do is voice our opinion, let her know we love her and will be here for her when that breaking point comes.
Her and the baby are going to need us immensly when that time comes, as we all know, and all we can do for now is let her know we love and support her, and when the time comes, jump in and BEAT him like he deserves.
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Do you think we could sell tickets for the fight with Bubba???? I think we'd make A LOT of money!!! LOL ;)
Re:"I don't know why I can't!!" penguin: I know I've said this a million times, but I'm workin on it. I don't know how to do this. I know I need to ditch the dodo, but I don't know how. I know I've got all the love and support in the world from family and friends. I know I can do the whole single mother thing. He does NOT have anything to hold over my head. I'm just angry at him for making my daughter's life and my life miserable, and I'm angry at myself for letting him ruin our lives too. I wish there were just a quick fix to this. I wish he'd just dissapear. I wish this were simple, but it's not. :'(
Re:"I don't know why I can't!!" Blueyes424: And that's why we are here to support you and to hold you up when you fall. You will get through this, and I've told you a gazillion times that there will come a point when you break.
I know you are scared and worried for a multitude of reasons......we've discussed them! Baby and you are going to be better off. I love you and will support you in anyway I can, you just need to say the word!!!
<<<<<BIG BIG BIG BIG HUGS>>>>>>>>
~Blue
Re:"I don't know why I can't!!" BabygirlM: ((((hugs))))) penguin you will get there eventually.....at least thats what everyone keeps telling me.
keep your head up girl.
