everyone has something going on jaydee: Well seems like everybody has their issues.
I guess im not alone..i just joined the club.
Im 30 shes 26 been together almost 10yrs married for almost 3.
At this time my wife is staying at her parents house,its been 2 weeks ,shes questioning being married to me.questioning the i love u but not in love with you thing, ireally dont know?.. i thought all was good ...but it takes two to tango.and shes not happy.So im giving her the space she wants right now..we are still talking and we do see eachother but not really.Life is crazy.
She is willing to talk to a therapist and she does say she wants things to work out.I love this woman it kills me that this is happening to us.
im just trying to deal with how long can this go on ..i ultimatly want things to work out .i just dont know how long is to long.just cant stop thinking about this its hard when i feel so strongly about how i feel and she feels like this.I dont know i really feel life is to short for this.
do i give her an ultimatum?
Re:everyone has something going on sacoderisa: well, i don't really know what to tell you, I am in the exact same situation. A year has passed by, and I still wonder. She says she don't love me, but acts totally different. What I've found out trough this year though is, She will do whatever she wants anyways, so I might as well enjoy my life as much as I can by myself, if she wants to join the ride, its fine, if not, there will be others that will.
Re:everyone has something going on BabygirlM: ultimatums only work when you really keep up with them. if she gives you the answer you dont wanna hear then you cant go back on that untimatum, otherwise you might have not made it at all. just my experience.
Re:everyone has something going on sacoderisa: enuf said, however, I did have to give her the ultimatum.....haha, and I am the one wanting her back now! lol. Just ride the wave, we are here for you, and just don't let her run ur life, enjoy being you with yourself!
Re:everyone has something going on hudson: hey jaydee.
sorry your wife walked out on you. i guess you'll have to ask yourself whether or not that is acceptable behavior in a marriage. is it ok for a spouse to just walk out everytime they are having seconds thoughts? of course not. not only that, she'll develop a pattern of retreat everytime things get rough...lovely huh? isn't marriage great?
if you give her the idea that what she's doing is ok, then you're enabling her. i've been where you are. i'm not talkin' smack here. you need to demand a decision from her now...you ask her..."sweet heart, dear, love of my life...are you in or are you out?" you push her for a decision, you pressure her for a decision and you find out what she's really made of. don't give her time to jerk you around with her indecisiveness.
just my two cents. been there, done that.
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