Re:Thinking of the past.... Spectrum: There's probably some subconscious trigger that is reminding you of him. I wouldn't worry about it unless you're finding the thoughts are of emotional significance.
I think about my ex periodically, and every once in a while something will happen that makes me think of him on and off for a few days. But its pretty much just memories and maybe wondering what he's up to, not particularly emotional.
Spectrum.
Re:Thinking of the past.... JimB: I'm with Lumpy. It's a part of your history - if you never thought about it, that would be much more worrisome (IMO). You think about your childhood from time to time, right?
Re:Thinking of the past.... faegonsgold: Thanks guys. Yes I realize it is part of my history and yes I do think of my childhood--at least what I can remember. I think I've surpressed my childhood and so I don't think of it much---anyway--that's another rabbit trail to visit later. The point is, is that it has been 21 months since I left him but yet I find myself thinking of him almost on a daily basis--with the exception of the weekends because I'm kept busy for the most part. I was the one who left and he is the one who hurt me, so by default I'd think it would be easier for me to not think of him. ???
I want to get this under control because even though it doesn't affect my current relationship, I don't want to risk the chance that someday it might. Things are going too good and I'm happier than I have ever been in a long long time. I just don't want to lose that.
