too comfortable? fiz: I just need to ask this. I see a lot of people that say stuff like "we never have anything to talk about". Is there such a thing as being too comfortable? Like you have talked about just about everything possible and if days on uneventful you have nothing to talk about… That’s how I feel about my ex, her and me where together 6 years and we talked a lot in the beginning of our relationship but it was about music and stuff. What do you do after you have talked about everything? I love her dearly and we do have a lot in common. I've been trying to be very conversational when we see each other but when nothing happens during the day what do you talk about when everything else has been said?
I actually started reading a lot more news feeds to find things interesting. I think a lot of this new guy she has been seeing every so often is the "newness" of him and being able to talk about things because they haven’t before. She doesn’t see him often like less then once a week and she rarely talks about him to anyone so I don’t expect much from him. She sees me A LOT more then she does him she is just having sex with him.
I wish I was creative enough to write her more then the 1 short poem I did. Maybe I will try again; something has to come from all this emotional rollercoaster I'm on.
Re:too comfortable? mine: seems like you and i are in the same boat
but you are creative
Re:too comfortable? in_search_of: I think that fiz, you are right that her enfatuation with the new guy is that he is new. I think that eventually all couples will get comfortable, I think that is the challenge, finding things to keep the spark alive, finding ways to make one another happy, to keep one another interested. To find things to talk about, etc.
Re:too comfortable? Dino: I don't think people need to be able to talk non-stop to each other. Especially partners who see each other constantly. You should be comfortable in silence with each other. That being said, it's unhealthy if you never talk.
New couples always have a lot to say because they are still finding out about each other.
When I see my mates we don't talk non-stop. Just because we don't talk non-stop doesn't make me think we aren't great mates. It's about enjoying people's company.
Re:too comfortable? fiz: That brings me to the next part. Me and her where together all day everyday for like the last year or so. I know it got boring for her because of my computer infatuation and need to always be on it so I could pay the bills. I also know this time apart is needed I just wish it didint involve her being with anouther man. She was my first sexual partner but I was not hers. She was experienced when we met so sex is diffrent for her. What she told me was that sex CAN mean something great but it doesnt have to, it can be just sex. Thats what she told me it was with that other guy. But she is not excusing him. She still tells me that she doesnt think me and her can be an "us" anymore. I have been looking for ways to keep our conversation alive and trying to relight the spark. I send her ecards every so often and it seems to make her feel better that day. I havent done it to often because I dont want to scare her away. But yesterday she told me her day was terrible and she didint like working with her moms business parter at the pet store. So last night I sent her an ecard and today she had a good day working with the same person and even called me 3 times today AND was instant messegning me on and off all day. I hardly got any work done lol. But when she came tonite to pickup my son her visit was rather freaquent. Not sure if she was afraid feeling might wander and she might do things she isnt ready to do yet. So I left it at that.
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