Re:newly single dad... wowee: I have the same problem - except I have no babysitters I know & my x isn't in the same state so I have the kids 24-7. I am pretty hooked on spongebob & Jimmy Neutron myself. ;)
Re:newly single dad... Ilosther: I'm 29, father of a 2 yr old, I live in North Jersey. I'm still technically with my wife until she decides it's over-lovely feeling of limbo I'm in.
It scares the hell out of me too, and I don't even know where to look for companionship. I think work, but my company is small. Church, but I haven't gone for a while-probably part of why this happening. I don't go clubbing, I'll go to a bar occassionally, but is that where I want to find people.
Keep me in mind if you are in North Jersey and maybe by that time I might be a single dad too. PM me, we'll keep in touch.
Re:newly single dad... Bubba: Well, Havehope, I can relate to you. When I first separated from ex (over a year ago now), I was 32 with a 20 month old son. I hadn't been single since Jan. 93'. I have joint custody of my son, meaning I have him for a week and then my ex has him for week.
So after 11 and half years of captivity (aka marriage), I was released into the wilds once again. First thing is first, call your single buddies. If you don't have any, get some. At least if you go to the bar to play pool, or darts you can look like you do have some friends, and are not just there to pick up.
So places to meet women: You have a four year old. Take him to the park. Single moms go to parks. In fact lots of women go to parks. A single father taking care of his child is attractive to single moms. They know you will understand them better. You have shown you can take care of kids. You also appear more trustworthy. All good things. Also, kids can be a common subject to start talking the lovely single moms.
You have your standard bars/clubs. Problem with them is, there is usually more guys then girls, and the guys all seem to be in heat. Women generally are on their guard while in bars for pyshco's and creeps. However, if you walk in with confidence, and with an easy going manner, you can meet a girl. Just play it cool. Women get hit on by drunken buffons all the time at bars, so don't be one.
Book Stores, Movie Rental Stores, Coffee Shops, Grocery Stores, etc. You are there, she is there, you have something in common. "Hey, that is great book, I read it last week". Yeah, they know you are hitting on them, so what. You are hitting on them. If they respond, your good, and if not, well you never technically got shot down so go on your way.
Internet - tons of dating web sites. My understanding is though that there are usually way more guys then girls therefore you better figure out how to make your ad stand out or your toast.
Coed sports leagues. They get to know you, and you them while playing sports.
Friends. Your friends wives and girlfriends always want to set you up. Why? No idea, but they do so let them.
Bubba
Re:newly single dad... Ilosther: That's very good advice Bubba. My wife today just told me that she does want to move out after we put our child into daycare. So, I guess the wheels are in motion for the Divorce Machine to devour another marriage, and this was a really good marriage too.
I'll still fight it, but in case it doesn't work out, those are very good ideas for meeting women. I do agree, it seems easier to be a single dad to find women. My son is so cute, and as much as I dont want to use him as bait, he really is. We'll see, Alcoholiday, pm where you are. I have family in south jersey, so I go there every so often. We can go form a deadly team of single dad's who use their sons to pick up women, haha.
Gotta laugh I guess
Re:newly single dad... pluscachange: [quote author=whatnext link=board=6;threadid=13539;start=0#msg112795 date=1119361235">
Well, you could start with a babysitter... [/quote">
Yeah, but then there's the question of the whole "underage" thing.
;D
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