Re:So I told her I was talking to someone... microtech1: hey Tar I understand where you are coming from on it being uncomfortable seeing a new person after committing your life to your wife. I found it really uncomfortable as well when I started seeing someone else because in my mind I was betraying all those vowes I said when we got married. I really feel for you and understand because my stbxw is still playing the little games just like your wife. She won't sign the settelment agreement and stuff like that but it is all about control. They so desperately want to stay in control and will try anything they can think of to try and retain that.
Re:So I told her I was talking to someone... raistlynne: I vote for not giving her any more information about your personal life. You don't owe it to her, and regardless of why you told, now you know that it led to no good. Don't give it another thought - just walk away from this knowing that your personal life is not her business and you don't have to justify, explain, or inform her of anything you do ever again.
Re:So I told her I was talking to someone... jimloveless: just wanted to wish you luck, tarheel, with the new ladyfriend. i hope you didn't take my other comment as a cut on you... i'm just not looking forward to my stbx freaking when i start seeing someone.
she's made every other play by the book, so i imagine she'll take the predictible route there, too.
Re:So I told her I was talking to someone... Tarheel: Jimmy, not a prob, man. I know what you meant by it, and it was REALLY funny.
Thanks to all for the comments. Her "stupid" confession was actually just the first time she's ever said it that simply. She's more or less told me before, just not as straight up.
The thing is, I'm NOT uncomfrotable with "the new woman." I don't know if I can recall ever being as comfortable just talking to someone as I am with her. Like I said, I wouldn't mind perhaps taking it to the next level and seeing what comes of it.
What I AM uncomfortbale with is having to deal with the ex on a semi-regular basis, as I currently do because of our daughter, while moving on with my life at the same time. I guess what I'm really saying is... is there a trick or something to moving on while still having to see the ex at least twice a week? I really wish I could cut all contact with her, at least at this point, but cannot do so because of Savannah.
I'll be all right. I'll figure out whats best for me. :) Thanks, guys.
