Re:So I told her I was talking to someone... Tarheel: No, I definitely wasn't trying to get a rise out of her. I didn't want to tell her at all, but she kept pushing my buttons. And I wasn't gonna lie to her. That's her thing, not mine.
It was awkward for me seeing her last night. It was the first time I'd seen her since I REALLY got to talking to a new woman. Like I said, last night was the first time since the night we met that I've had to deal with her and she was NOT the primary woman on my mind. And her just being there was uncomfortable. Because when I took those vows of marriage, I was ready to be hers, and hers alone, for the rest of my life. And now there's someone else in my life, and it's weird. I don't know if anyone else knows what I'm talking about.
As far as her straddling the fence, I don't know what she wants. Like I said, I gave her a way out a month ago, after he hit her, but she went back to him. But one week later, and she's acting like she wants to get back with me again. But yet, she's still with him. Her family's in Pennsylvania, and she's abandoned all her friends here. She's got him and me, and that's it. My reconciliation plan consisted of buying her a plane ticket home so she could stay there for a while and sort her life out. But she thought I was gonna use that and get her for abandonment of our daughter, and allegedly, that's why she didn't go for it. Didn't trust me, so she went back to him.
All I'm trying to do is move on now. I've met a smart, attractive, captivating young woman and we hit it off pretty good. I REALLY like her and would like to pursue a relationship with her, even if I'm here and she's in Jacksonville, six hours apart. I wasn't gonna lie to her. It's not my fault she's screwed things up with me twice.
Sorry for rambling... and yes, Jimmy. It is a soap opera. But if things work out between me and my new lady friend, maybe it'll be worth it... :)
Re:So I told her I was talking to someone... JimB: [quote author=links9814 link=board=1;threadid=13544;start=0#msg112848 date=1119366231">
Tarheel, you don't owe her anything. She doesnt seem to care about your feelings, why should you bend over backwards for her.
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I'll field this one....
Because you are better than her, of course. You know how to treat another human being. You still care about her, and that's why it bothers you when she gets upset.
She, on the other hand, is yanking your chain. Due process allows her to do that, at least to some degree. It might not hurt to explain to her that if she is having any doubts about the two of you not being together, making things difficult for you isn't improving your impression of her. I do think it was unnecessary for you to tell her about your "interested party", but it was also unnecessary for her to push and prod at you. People shouldn't ask questions unless they're prepared to hear the answers.
She sounds like she has an awful lot of issues, and you're probably better off without her. It's going to take some patience on your part, and you'll have to set boundaries whenever you can. Good luck.
Re:So I told her I was talking to someone... sigkapgirl: I'm with Jim - you know how to treat other people because you're a mature adult. I know how hard it can be to deal with an adult who acts like a child, just remember to be the bigger person.
I think you should stick with the new girl ;D
Re:So I told her I was talking to someone... sourpuss: she made her bed, she does not now get to be upset because you are getting on with your life.
be the bigger person, treat her as you would expect to be treated.
Re:So I told her I was talking to someone... ajw: So did this confession of being "stupid" come after she found out about your new friend.If so i think it's just an attempt to keep you on the back foot in this new relationship because your wife can see she is losing her control over you.
Good luck
Andy
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