Help! First person I've liked since the split but am so scared of screwing it up mophead123: So my friend dragged me out to a club for the first time in over half a year last Friday night. It really was my first night out where I felt my head was in there since the breakup. I was a mess for so long that even when I went out, I would break down in tears thinking about my ex and how much she had hurt me, lied to me and cheated one me. It pained me so much to know that she had run out on our relationship and that she was already with someone new and happy.
Anyway...I ran into an old friend who introduced me to one of her friends named Jen. We hit it off immediately and spent the rest of the night together talked, hung out...made out a bit and just had a good time. We exchanged info and I walked her to the station and we parted ways at 530 in the morning...It was one of the best nights I had had in so long.
Anyway, the next day I was thinking about this girl all day and really wanted to see her again. I know it was probably pretty stupid, but that night texted her and invited her to see a movie on Sunday, the next day...A few hours later she responded and said she would be happy to go with me. So we went to see Batman and then went out to dinner. Everything went well. This girl is really fun...but a bit on the young side.
Anyway, that night, she texted me again when i got home and said she had a nice time and had a great weekend and thank you...etc...have a good day at work. Then she called me and hung up at 1am in Sunday night. I was already asleep and didn't notice.
I still have yet to repsond...both text message or phone, however. I like her but am still i guess scared of losing "hand" or in the end getting hurt. Anyway, I thought I should wait a few days before calling her and asking her out again. I don't want to appear too into her and keep her guessing. I want to wait until Wednesday, but is that extremely rude. Am I killing it by waiting and not repsonding to her or am I just crazy and thinking too much? I guess I am just nervous about screwing it up so I don't want to rush in or make a mistake. I forget how to do this. Anyway, any help would be appreciated.
Re:Help! First person I've liked since the split but am so scare of screwing it hollygolightly: Hey mophead. I think I'm in the exact same situation. I just started my first post-divorce relationship and all my insecurities stemming from the divorce are sabatoging what could have been a something great.
My advice - take it slow and don't jump into the "seeing each other everyday thing." You saw her Friday and again on Sunday. Can you send a text saying you had a really great time on your dates and you will call her Wednesday to setup something for the weekend?
Good luck,
holly
Re:Help! First person I've liked since the split but am so scare of screwing it laurie007: i would take it slow..i'm kinda in a situation like you, i'm seperated at hte moment and have found someone but don't know if i'm scared or if ji'm doing the right thing. i had posted something yesterday about if i was ready to remarry...i'm not but could it be possible is what i wanted to know...anyway i think you are fine waiting and i wouldn't rush it - i'm sure she's sitting at home/work/whatever thinking about you and checks her phone all the time. i'd text her and then call her wednesday...did she leave a message the night she called at 1am? so, no i don't think it's rude to wait but don't wait too long but seems like you have your head on right
laurie
Re:Help! First person I've liked since the split but am so scare of screwing it jillieb44: I'm in the same boat. Been e-mailing a new guy for about a week, so far so good, then we exchanged websites, and then it was obvious I needed to call (he wanted to call earlier but I need a few e-mails to get a feel for a person before I call -- funny how that is NOT acceptable to some people, LOL). So we exchanged phone numbers and had a GREAT conversation last night >1hr.
I so want to talk to this guy again, e-mail, ask him out, etc. but...here I sit not wanting to be overeager (my divorce isn't even final yet though I'm totally over the ex).
The new man knows my situation and doesn't seem to mind...
I'll wait until later I guess...
Jillie
Re:Help! First person I've liked since the split but am so scare of screwing it mophead123: Thanks guys!...she didnt leave a message by the way. Should I text her ASAP or is a phone call tomorrow by itself, asking her out for Friday night ok?
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