Re:Help! First person I've liked since the split but am so scare of screwing it JimB: I don't use text that much, and would recommend avoiding it except for very basic exchanges of information. Live RL conversation is so much better.
She's not going to mysteriously disappear from your life in a matter of a couple of days. Call her Wednesday and set something up for this weekend.
And don't worry about screwing it up. If something weird happens and it doesn't work out, there'll be other opportunities.
Re:Help! First person I've liked since the split but am so scare of screwing it Lome: Am I getting this right? " You made out " as in the prelude to sex and now you are afraid to email or phone....
Dude...cart before the horse. Time to slow this down.
Well, I am very old fashioned in this regard....it seems.
So here is my old fashioned response.
There is nothing wrong with a friendly email. I have a few that I email daily....
But set limits....You know...I reallly enjoyed seeing you last time, thank you for the show. I will be busy the next few days ( sitting around bored or clipping your toe nails count) but, I will get back to you on Thursday around 7.
Don't play mind games. Set up dates where you can develop some sort of friendship....activities or events that allow for discussion afterwards....
She is young and you are just recently coming out of your shell....have some fun....just don't start thinking too far ahead.
Good Luck....
Why not text her saying you would love to discus plans for the weekend....Friday may be too short of notice...
She may have plans on Thursday (gym, groceries, hanging out) and may not be available for the call.
Re:Help! First person I've liked since the split but am so scare of screwing it laurie007: i think actually you'd be fine waiting till wednesday to call and talk to her and skip the text...you only have to wait till tomorrow if it were more than one day away i'd say text but call her tomorrow-i'm sure she'll answer or if she's busy she'll call you back as soon as possible.
Re:Help! First person I've liked since the split but am so scare of screwing it mophead123: Hey Lome...thanks for your advice. Laurie, I'm glad you understand my reservations too. I know its kind of strange in that I already got a lot of interested signs from her, we already made out a bit as I said and yet am still scared to call. I guess I am just afraid of rejection. I am trying as hard as possible to make sure I have the least amount of risk while still not giving her the impression that I'm not interested. I'm thinking too hard huh?
Re:Help! First person I've liked since the split but am so scared of screwing i in_search_of: I love texts so I have to say that if you want to text and say hey, I had a great time, I will give you a call wednesday, that would be perfectly alright, and would probably set my mind at ease. I always wonder if someone will call, if there is not something set up like that (I am young and anal...) so I personally would appreciate the little text that said, hey here is when I will call. There is no reason why you have to explain why you waited until wednesday.
Good luck! Have fun with the new ness of a new relationship!
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