Re:Need some advice / Can she trust me again? sourpuss: wanting her to know how hard you are trying to win her back isn't really "giving her space" now is it?
i know it's very hard, but you will have to back off and behave like you really are "just friends" and let her make the first move.
has she asked you not to contact her at all? if she has, you need to respect that. if not, then go ahead and touch base here and there, but as friends, not as a potential boyfriend.
and don't worry, she knows you are trying. trust me.
Re:Need some advice / Can she trust me again? Ilosther: I got the same problem, I need to be near her, and I always catch myself telling her how much I love her. I've definitely cut back on that talk because to her, they are just words. I always say actions speak louder than words, so I'm just being me, being as nice as possible and caring. I still haven't been able to give her all that space, only because we raise a child together. I have taken him away for a weekend, so that hopefully helped.
But does space mean moving out of the same house? She wouldn't abandon our son, nor would I, so i still don't know exactly this space issue. But I do know I don't ask her to stay anymore, I don't smother her with my words. But for some reason, I feel closer than ever to her, both physically and emotionally.
Re:Need some advice / Can she trust me again? schpolo15: i know what you mean. your in a little different boat than i am but i feel closer to her now than i ever have. i guess its true that you sometimes hurt the ones you love the most. its just tough to sit it out hopeing she will be able to give you the chance to show her she can trust you again
Re:Really Need some advice / Can she trust me again? schpolo15: thanks for the replies, anyone else ever been here? is just space the answer. should i wait for her to make the move?
Re:Really Need some advice / Can she trust me again? tilly: I'm in a similar situation with my wife, I can tell you it's not easy to sit in silence and hope things get better. I've been able to do just that by reaching out to friends and family and also by reading books on Divorce and how to avoid it. One thing I am sure of, if you continue to push her, you may as well kiss it goodbye. As much as it sucks to not know what's going on, you have to respect her decision, regardless if you agree with it or not. Get your life on track, she'll notice that and want you back. She's not attracted to the person you are at this time. Think of the way you were when you first met each other, what was it that she liked about you. For me it was the confidence and high self-esteem I possessed, it's very hard to show those things at this time but that's exactly what I'm set out to do. And at the end of the day remember, it's out of your control anyway, the big man upstairs is in charge.
"If you love it, set it free. If it returns to you, it's your's forever. If it doesn't, it was never yours to begin with"
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