Re:why did i go through with it... laurie007: thanks amber and sour...i think you're right...i always have to have something to worry about - it's just what i do. i also believe that i think i am tainted and i guess that's why i wish every day that i hadn't gone through with it....i think yall hit the nail on the head! i need to suck it up and meet them and not worry about my past, it has nothing to do with him directly and put on a cute outfit and go! my friends have backed me tremendously and his friends were my friends and vice versa so i have made it through all that--it's so hard not to worry! i have been slow at work lately too so that hasn't helped stop my mind from wandering! thanks again!!
laurie~
Re:why did i go through with it... mophead123: Hey Laurie,
I know how you feel about worrying about what other people think. It is very easy to get lost in that world and forget that it is your life to live. I often make the mistake as well of assuming people think a certain way without even ever knowing. In the end it comes down to self-doubt, which gets strengthened through experience. I felt like I was damaged goods for awhile to be honest. And you ARE NOT tainted by any means. If anything, you are the opposite. Experienced, wiser, and you are also still incredibly young. You have tons going for you! It's easy to doubt and self-select before making any move. If you don't make yourself vulnerable, you won't get hurt right. I often feel this way since my split. But it doesn't help you move forward either. Be confident in yourself and give it a shot I say. Good luck!
Re:why did i go through with it... jillieb44: I guess I'm at the point in my life where I don't really care what other people think. I would hope any potential new men would judge me on who I am, not the length of my separation/divorce, only because I think in my case I had years to get used to the fact that it was over, before finally calling it quits. I think that helped me get over the ex a lot faster -- I'd already been in that mode for a long time in my marriage. It's been 10 months since I truly knew it was over, even though the paperwork took till May to be filed. In my state it takes 6 months for things to be finalized, so I have til November.
It will be a good Christmas present, eh?
Jillie
