The case of I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him... Stacib: My husband and I have been separated for about 6 months. We were married for 13 years and have two children together. I have someone new in my life and he has his flavors of the month. This months' flavor is a friend of a mutual friend of mine. This mutual friend tells me everything about them. I can't blame her because I have asked. Curosity is about to kill me. However I am finding it very painful to hear. My husband is an alcoholic and that is why I left. I would never go back to that life style and I am not in love with him and haven't been for years. It does hurt though. It makes me want to fly off the deep end towards this chick. She is trash in my opinion anyway but I can't pick his women. Even though I am the "leaver" this is so painful. I just wish the hurt would go away. I guess my only choice is to tell the mutual friend that I can't and don't want to hear anymore. It's also hard not to let on to him that I know these things, I don't want the mutual friend involved even though to a degree she is. I just wish I could blow the whole cover!!! :(
Re:The case of I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him... tyrogers: The worst thing you can do to yourself is ask. Don't ask. As trying as it may be, DO NOT ASK. If she starts to volunteer information, nip it right then. Let her know politely that you prefer not to hear any of it.
For your own sanity.........don't ask.......don't listen.
BIG BIG HUGS!!
BBHF - Tyleena ("Ty")
Re:The case of I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him... justmenow: Oooh! I had this same problem so this all sounds very familiar. Except the problem was that he feels the need to tell me all the intricate details of his life now. Funny he was never that forthcoming when we were married...
I had to simply draw the line and sometimes even get rude and say "J, I don't really want to hear about what's going on with you." You've got to take control, kill that curiosity and cut him off completely. That's what is going to be best for you in the end until you get through the true and final emotional divorce.
As of now, I honestly don't care what he's doing with his life. It is of no interest to me and I am wholeheartedly thankful that I am no longer a part of it. I wish you strength in this area. Good luck!
Re:The case of I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him... Stacib: Well I just drew the line with my friend. I told her that even though I ended this marriage it was still painful to hear these things and that I didn't want to know anymore. I told her unless it was something that could possible put my children in harms way I didn't want to know. I think I will be better off. I just wish I could get past this emotional state. If only I could fast forward time.....
Re:The case of I don't want him but I don't want anyone else to have him... tyrogers: Good for you! Time will fast forward on its own....before you know it, you will think someone hit the skip button on the DVD player and you missed some scenes!
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BBHF
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