Re:Need guys opinion - sorry so long jimloveless: i'd date ya, pumpkin. kids don't scare me. unless their heads spin around and stuff.
Re:Need guys opinion - sorry so long mydarkdreams: I hear ya pumpkin.. I am at the point where it's like - Wow, I have 3 kids. My oldest is 13 and youngest is 4... and my middle one has a social disorder (Aspergers, it's on the autistic spectrum - but he really is doing MUCH better and does fairly well these days)...
So, I am thinking I'll be alone forever. And my lovely ex tells me that it is because of my two older kids (mostly my middle one) that "it can't work" (its actually WAY more than that and he has NO patience, my kids are really not that bad). .. but it contributes to my thought of no one will want to be with me, i have kids.
hang in there!! *hug* and there is someone who will want to be with you and enjoy and love you every bit as much as you deserve.
Re:Need guys opinion - sorry so long gumby55555: Well, I guess I'll add my two cents or so, as well... I'm with SweetJimmy on this and favour the direct approach. If a girl backs off or plays (what seem to me to be) games, I back right off in a hurry; if she doesn't return my calls/msgs/emails, I quit calling/msging/emailing. On the other hand, I respond very well to a direct approach... when a girl expresses her interest to me, even if I'm not totally into her, I'll give it a go because someone interested in me is a huge positive (and probably indicative of low self-esteem but never mind that for now :) ).
It *is* possible that your being a single mother is part of his hesitancy... there really isn't enough information to make that determination but I've got a few friends who're involved in their churches and they usually tend to back off from single moms (although, I should add, there are plenty of others who don't view that as a drawback at all). To be honest, there really isn't enough information to know what's going on with this guy's head... I can definitely see the double-messages, though.
If it were me, I'd favour the direct approach: just say that you really enjoy hanging out with him and want to see if it could develop into something more and if he seems interested, go for it but if he seems at all hesitant, write him off and move on to the next fishy... ;) Best of luck to ya, Pumpkin!
Re:Need guys opinion - sorry so long hurting: I have a stupid question...where can I find a church that has alot of social events? Most of my local ones are the old style of church...
any advice? I live in Ottawa Canada
Re:Need guys opinion - sorry so long Pumpkin: Thanks for everyone's reply. As for churches with alot of social events in Canada, I don't know. I just asked around about churches and was told that this one has a big younger following, so I called someone to ask questions about this group for singles that meets Sun. nights. It has about 60 people that come each Sun. and about 120 people on thier roster list. There is another church with a big younger following I can check into if I don't end up liking this one. I also know of two other churches I could look into, too. Really I originally wanted to go to a church for the religious reasons during this hard time in my life, but my own church only had 5-6 people going to it (one guy and the rest girls), so that's why I checked out this one. This one and another one that are supposed to have a bigger younger following are Bible chuches (nondenominational).
I am going to try to keep busy. I should not worry or think about things too much, there is just too much inconsistancy with alot of these people. Maybe it's just b/c I am new or something. I may also look into some groups for single parents or something. I just worry with that that everyone will be so much older than me (I am 28, so most people my age are still on thier first marraige).
-Courtney
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