Re:Fighting the Divorce machine Lome: Why fight? You made a vow and gave it your all. H#ll yeah...fight with all that you have...it is your life afterall.
Denial...sure. how could the person you love just go nuts? it is so unlike them. My shrink said the same things...my husband was unhappy with himself (not me), that he would continue to be unhappy and that he was running away from his problems. Guess what...you can not make them change.
It seldom gets so bad as my "breakup"....and we still have a chance.
Read every post here that you can....read all of the vents, all of the stories....
it is cheaper than therapy, you will begin to see patterns in behaviors, and it also helps to introduce you to some of the major characters at the site...by that, I mean you can see who has already been where you are and are moving towards the light.
Good luck!
The worst (and most painful) advice I recieved was if he has considered divorce then it is already over....but, that is not necessarily true.
Simple advice from the site.
Be polite and develop a time frame.
no contact (that is really hard) but allows her to think
be hopeful, work on improving yourself.....be the best you that you can...your life is about to suck so big time you have no clue....
and prepare for the worst. and understand that this may all be about her...not you.
Let me know if I can help (just pm)
Re:Fighting the Divorce machine inthemiddle: Great advice Lome!!
