What would a post OJar Dating Site look like? admin: Hi there,
A lot of people over the last few years have asked if/when OJar.com would spawn a dating site.
After all, the natural progression for a lot of people after being 're-singled' is to seek a new partner once they're ready.
So, here's are some quick questions;
1) What would a ideal post-OJar dating site look like?
2) What would make it different from the gazillions of other dating sites out there already?
3) How could a community feel be brought into the dating site? More then just a photo and a "I walk on the beach" comment.
4) What would it be called? You can check if the URL site name is available at, Click Name Boy .
5) And finally, how much would you be willing to pay monthly for an excellent dating site that did more then just provide a photo/text block? Remember, it would require advertising to attract members through all the noise and static on the Internet. OJar after all these years is indexed highly on all major search engines, it also fills a niche, but a dating site would need to be different and promoted - hence the need for $'s. Free dating sites attract tyre kickers. If someone is serious about finding a life partner they will put their $'s where their heart is.
-- Michael.
Re:What would a post OJar Dating Site look like? cbbear27: That is a tough one. I guess I feel that it could be a good thing for some of us here. And if someone on this site lives in your area it would be a good way to meet and make new friends. I guess I am divided on this issue. Part of me says that would be great but part of me says why ruin a good thing. I DUNNO what does everyone else think? :-\
Re:What would a post OJar Dating Site look like? justmenow: Just throwing a couple of thoughts out there... Why make it searchable? I think if you find OJAR, you find the dating site. Personally I liked your title of "Second Chances", and in the profile instead of "I like sunsets on the beach" you could read the person's last 50 posts or so to determine a bit what they're like. Maybe make it accessible (if you could get this to work...) to those who have posted over 50 or 100 AND paid a monthly fee. That would be up to you I guess to set that bottom line as to what your time is worth.
What would I be willing to pay to get out of this fiery pit of Hell that I have lived through in the past few months? Probaby anything.
LOL, I think you should also include a "WARNING - DO NOT DATE THIS PERSON board that includes a complete list of our X's and their transgressions..." You could call that site "Natural Selections by Darwin" You could include categories such as "Number of Lawsuits Filed" and "Number of people cheated with" and "Diseases Currently Harboring"... ;D
Re:What would a post OJar Dating Site look like? JimB: [quote">
1) What would a ideal post-OJar dating site look like?[/quote">
Well, Michael, who would the site be for? Would it be primarily for those of us who are familiar with OJar and accessed primarily thru OJar, or would it be for the general public? If it's mostly for OJar people, make it look like OJar. I can't really speak for the general public, because I'm part of the segment who likes OJar. ;D
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2) What would make it different from the gazillions of other dating sites out there already?[/quote">
Concept and content, my friend. I personally don't see the need for a lot of bells and whistles - either the concept of a dating site for divorced people works, or it doesn't.
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3) How could a community feel be brought into the dating site? More then just a photo and a "I walk on the beach" comment.[/quote">
I'd say make sure the profiles have a couple of mandatory questions that are specifically tailored to our little community. Check out The Onion personals for some examples: The Onion is a very irreverent concept, and some of the profile questions tie in very well with the community of Onion connoisseurs. One example: "What can be found in your bedroom?"
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4) What would it be called? You can check if the URL site name is available at, Click Name Boy .[/quote">
I like "Second Chances" too, even if it is a little new-agey. I don't have any better suggestions.
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5) And finally, how much would you be willing to pay monthly for an excellent dating site that did more then just provide a photo/text block? [/quote">
I agree with your philosophy on pay vs. free. However, I am a "tyre kicker" right now, and I think a lot of divorced people feel the same way. I'm on Matchmaker because I like it, and because it doesn't cost me anything. If I had to pay, I wouldn't do it, unless something about the concept and the content really spoke to me.
Perhaps you should just discount my opinions completely, as I'm in a mode where I think it's a bit delusional to think you're going to meet the love of your life on the Internet. I've met a ton of interesting people thru OJar and internet dating, but taking the next step of developing chemistry is really tough. For me, it's not a search for a mythical "soul mate", it's a diversion and an opportunity to meet interesting people.
Re:What would a post OJar Dating Site look like? TiredandScared: I totaly agree with Jim, but when it comes to #5 about paying. To be able to kick the tires, how about very limited functionality if you don't pay, but it gives you a chance to look and have others look at you, but to have advanced features part of the pay portion.
I guess the only thing is you would want to be careful of is not to easy to get enough functionality for free, because that'll suck in the "wrong crowd" trying to get everything for nothing.
