Re:Something to be concerned about ? NoEscape: [quote author=riversandlakes link=board=1;threadid=14015;start=0#msg117216 date=1120065999">
is not telling the truth considered lying? imho, sadly, yes.
ok, without disclosing the snooping (whatever for), why not you tag along for this group meeting? if she becomes uncomfortable...
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she has invited me in the past...prior to baby. However its really impossible now...she works really far away..otherwise I would show up.
This is upsetting to me...
I guess in my mind our relationship has been really bad in the past....a lot due to me. Now that I have fixed that--we get along very well. We are also active in all aspects of our life...I just can't picture her doing anything while we are "happy". But this certainly makes me think.....about everything.
Re:Something to be concerned about ? Thinkin: Hey NE, long time no see. Sounds like your still having issues as well as I am. I think she is taking it a bit too far, I agree with SS that time should not be spent outside of the marriage. If it’s to be fixed and work out I think she could have invited you rather then him. I don't really have much to say cause I really don't think my advice is worth much since I'm going through the same thing as you. But you have been there for me since day one and I wanted to let you know that I am pulling for you and if you ever need anything let me know.
Hang in there,
Thinkin
Re:Something to be concerned about ? sadaboutdad: I would still try to steer her away from doing lots of things without you.... just see how open she would be to doing things with you instead of hanging out with others (I know a girls night out once in a while is nothing to worry about) but pay attention to how long she is gone and how often she does it.... and how willing she is to put time and effort into a family night at home or a dinner for two after the kids are in bed..... how old are the little one(s)... old enough to sleep at a family, or friends house? Start thinking of things that you would like to do together..... even if it is just because you can't trust her make your wishes known to be about spending time with family and rebuilding what you have.... if she is out or gone all the time then how can you reconsturct what you had? Also pay close attention to her spending.... a night out with friends drinking should show up in your finances.... try to get her not to carry cash, just a debit or credit card so that you can check where she is spending money and if it is where she told you (or if she is spending any at all i.e. is someone buying her drinks or is she even at a bar???) If she does cary cash check her car/purse/pockets for reciepts..... I know how hard it is to not trust and doubt everything, I just wanted to know for sure without being too accusatory
Re:Something to be concerned about ? NoEscape: whats up thinkin.
Long time buddy. Thanks for the support.
My wife in general never goes out without me or baby.....our child is an infant. She has been out twice in the past 3 months to give you an idea.
And she was home by 8pm last time...the other time by 8:30.
If she were screwing around the only real time would be at lunchtime. Which is how I caught her the first time....
I dunno. This could be much ado about nothing. Maybe...
Re:Something to be concerned about ? Suddenly Single: You are right it could be nothing.....however...it is right of you to be on your toes and paying attention.
UGH - I hate that people have to go through this. Why can't people just take care of each other. :'(
HUGS to you!!
SS
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