Re:Something to be concerned about ? Thinkin: [quote"> You are right it could be nothing.....however...it is right of you to be on your toes and paying attention. [/quote">
That I too feel is that right thing, it could be nothing, it could be she does did just want to catch up on old time with the friend, but keep on your toes. I don't think you have to be all snoopy about it cause I think you would feel it if she had a new interest in this man. I felt it when my wife was pulling away, at the time I didn't know what it was all about but I know I would understand if I got that same feeling from her again.
You know how your trust is so try and not let it get the best of you. Just be happy with you and keep your eyes and ears open so your not hit from behind if something is to come of this meeting.
Your the best, I'm posting too today and having issues. One day we won't have to have each others back but for now I'm there for you man.
Hang tough,
Thinkin
Re:Something to be concerned about ? NoEscape: thanks guys. Sorry I didnt give the complete picture about everything to begin with---its not like she goes out all the time partying...quite the opposite.
As a matter of fact the night she came home she just went on about how much she cares for me etc....
Who friggin knows....I am trying to be on my toes...I dont think I am going to jump on her unless I find soemthing really incriminating. But I will post my insecurities here being many of you are in the same boat. Iceberg straight ahead ! ;D
Re:Something to be concerned about ? jillieb44: I agree with Sadaboutdad here. Voice your concerns. They are valid after what you've been through. It's hard to regain trust and your wife should understand that.
Jillie
Re:Something to be concerned about ? Thinkin: [quote"> They are valid after what you've been through. It's hard to regain trust and your wife should understand that.[/quote">
But then that breaks down the trust that she feels and can cause her to pull away, if she doesn't think you trust her then what's that telling her? I think the best thing knowing that you have an issue with trust like myself, just keep your eyes and ears open and don't jump into anything that may just be a trust thing in your own mind. Your right jillie but coming from the same boat as NE it could do more damage with him snooping and showing his non-trust in her.
Just take it slow and keep the radar up so if you do get that withdrawn feeling from her then it's time for concern. But then I can't say I'm right since I'm having all the same issues as NE and can't get a handle on it either.
Just Thinkin out loud.
Re:Something to be concerned about ? riversandlakes:
any psychologists here? how about little subtle ways of showing her your trust and "asking" for a little more effort to earn your trust in return?
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