How do you tell people??? sigkapgirl: Okay, so this is my newest problem! My family and friends know about the divorce (because they all talk to eachother) but I am having a horribly hard time telling people who I don't really know - people at church, parents' friends, professors, etc.
For example, I was at a going away party last week, and this woman I didn't even know walked up and told me congratulations on being engaged! WHAT? That was like, well, only a year ago, but still!
I don't really care what these people think of me, but its very awkward to tell people that you're divorced when they are just now congratulating you on getting married, or when they ask where your husband is.
Any advice on how to tell these people that we're getting a divorce??
Thanks!!
Re:How do you tell people??? tyrogers: "Thank you. But unfortunately things have not worked out like either of us imagined they would. We are now separated/divorced/in the middle of/etc." When they say oh no or feel bad, just smile and say "It's ok. No need to apologize. Not many people know so do not feel bad."
That will usually handle it. Besides, that way, more people will know (you know how gossip flies) and before you know it, you will not run into this problem.
Later girl!
BBHF - Tyleena ("Ty")
Re:How do you tell people??? riversandlakes:
honey,
if you are not comfortable saying anything, including (or especially) this story of your life, don't do so. smile away or say, "thanks."
only the annoying ones will pry. smile away those too.
"are you engaged?" seeing the ring on my finger.
"no, that's my lucky charm."
so what, everyone wears something or another. i'm still alive here with the heartshatter. i wear what i want and for the reasons i invent heh
Re:How do you tell people??? getting_rough: I am going through the same thing right now. I have been seperated for 3 weeks and had a baby shower over the weekend. My cousin and I had both been trying to get pregnant at the same time. I obviosly have stopped trying and she is due in a few weeks. I did not want to tell any of our family or friends about my situation for fear of steeling her thunder. But it was the most uncomfortable day ever I did end up crying in the middle of opening gifts because I got overwhelmed and everyone thought it was cause I am not pregnant yet. I wish it was that easy. I am jsut letting word of mouth take care of things for me. I told my immediate family and really close friends but the rest will have to just get the gossip tale. Is that awful. I know i am being weak but I just cant deal with all the questions right now.
Re:How do you tell people??? sourpuss: tell people what you want, when you want.
it's ok to be, shall we say, not entirely honest.
there were some people in some places on some days that i just couldn't muster the inner strength to deal with them, so i just didn't.
one gal came up to me at work in a room full of people on a day when i was very weepy and started going on about how much she simply adored that hubby of mine & how was he, etc. i said oh he's fine, he's out of town.
i emailed her a few days later to explain.
other than that, i've been careful to tell the gossipy people on days when i feel ok. i know they will spread it around like wildfire....
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