Re:How do you tell people??? sourpuss: yes - i get that one too.
my stock answer is "time will tell...".
then i change the subject.
Re:How do you tell people??? freovir: i went with humor and sent an email to my friends. Feel free to use it, although you will probably have to change some details to fit your situation.
http://www.ojar.com/boards/index.php?board=4;action=display;threadid=8607;start=msg68243#msg68243
--freovir
Re:How do you tell people??? wowee: I'm going to have to agree with BBHF on this one. The honest, yet polote approach seems to work the best & as TWG stated, it really is theraputic to get it out in the open. The sooner you do, the less people will be coming up to you asking about it & this will be one less stress in your life.
Re:How do you tell people??? minneapolis: I found it to be hardest to tell people who weren't really close to me, but asked about my stbxh b/c it was a normal thing for them to do.
For example, the guy at the coffee shop asked where my husband has been lately. I stammered and said, "uh, let's just say he's found another coffee shop." He immediately caught on and apologized.
My hairdresser wanted to know if my husband noticed when I got my hair cut. I said, "he used to, but we're not together anymore."
My contractor wondered if my husband had been travelling lately and that's why he wasn't around. I said, "actually, we're not together anymore."
The people you never plan on telling (you rehearse telling your family and your friends and your co-workers) that take you by surprise that can be the hardest. For me, I hate making people feel bad for asking, so I try to tell them in a way that lets them know without trying to make them feel like they shouldn't have asked but also lets them know that I don't want to talk about it. I find just saying, "we're not together anymore" is most effective. Almost everyone says how sorry they are, I say, yes, I am too, but....and then I change the subject back to my latte, or my roof repair, etc.
Hang in there!
Re:How do you tell people??? Ilosther: I'm getting the news out there to my closest friends and even some not so close. I feel spreading the news helps me feel connected to the world again and see that I do have more to life than 1 woman.
My hardest question I'm thinking is, why? Why did we split?
How do I even tell my son that when he understands?
Sometimes I feel like saying my wife died, course that would be too dramatic. But it feels like that.
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