Re:overanalyzing?? mophead123: Hey,
I know its easy to let your emotions one wild and have one thought springboard the next etc...and it just has a domino effect. I would be surprsied if he is trying to create distance between you because his ex his coming. Though I can TOTALLY understand how that could makeyou uncomfortable. Did he ask you about it at all before he allowed her to come? As far as the texts go, I love that whole part of relationships too. Gets you through the day and all.
Anyway, I think this could just be a small little patch. I would try to ride it out and be patient if you can. If he'll talk about it with you without having a fight, of course that is the best option. You think you have any leeway to get in there?
Re:overanalyzing?? AmyMarie1972: Hi,
I myself would not be happy with an ex staying the night. You are certain that he has no feelings left for her? Did he start to act strange before or after she invited herself?
It is possible that he is missing time just for him, some people really do need time for themselves. Maybe you could arrange to go out for a night without him and just with friends.
Try not to let his behaviour play on your mind to much and see what happens. If things start to get worse then you may have to try and find a way to talk to him.
Good luck
Amy
Re:overanalyzing?? laurie007: i am 99.9 percent positive he does not want this girl...no i'm 110 percent positive...i think just my jealousy kicks in and my mind wandered when he asked if it was okay if she stayed, just for a night. maybe it's just coincidence that she is coming and he changed his attitude...maybe not. ..i know i will be with him every second she is there so no worries really there...just trying to figure out if he has a problem with me. and yes he is the kind who needs his space, his time...he spends it sleeping but i guess he needs it, kinda to recharge. i may just let him have his time one night this weekend, to see if it helps. i dont' need my space as much as he does...i do need the text, acknowlegement of text that i send him...i am very emotional and when i am attached i always try to send sweet messages, and stuff like that...he used to but now he hasn't...guess that's what happens with guys when they know they have you!
thanks for everyone's postings - it really helps to talk about it...to see where i may be wrong or where i may be right
Re:overanalyzing?? belle0626: Sometimes you gotta go with your gut. If it's telling you that something is "Off" then it probably is. I would come out and ask him but not in an accusatory tone. This sounds an awful lot like therapy but base your questions on your feelings like, "Lately I feel hurt because.." or "I'm confused because..." I've found with most men that you'd better have some facts to back up your feelings. So if you say he didn't reply to a text message, know in the back of your mind when that message was.....More than likely he's just busy or stressed about work. I've also found that when men aren't happy at work, they aren't happy at home. Good luck to you. It's hard to find a soulmate so if you know it is him, try to relax and it will all work out.
Re:overanalyzing?? belle0626: One last thing....I'll bet he's a nervous wreck about his ex coming to town and staying with you. It has nothing to do with you or him showing you affection, he's just stressed about what may or may not happen. I met my bf's ex, who happens to be the mother of his child. He paced around the house for 3 hours before she came to pick up their son. He was crabby, he was impatient, you name it. When the hour came to meet her, everything was very civilized between the two of us, and the minute she walked out the door, he was all smiles, holding hands, etc. He told me after that he was worried about how she would make ME feel...which is what made him nervous.
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