Can we date online? starlight41580: I've never been one for meeting people in bars, and I've always had a hard time meeting people. I'm recently separated, and my question is.......Is it okay to join an online dating site while you're separated, or is it likely that you could get in some major trouble with your stbx if you do so?
I haven't been in a relationship since we broke up, and it's really starting to upset me. I hate being alone. What do you guys think about online dating while being separated? I'm afraid that I'll have to wait until the divorce to actually be happy again. :'(
Re:Can we date online? jillieb44: Well, I'm doing it, I have a public profile on a prominent dating site. Can't say I've actually gotten a date off it yet (guess I keep scaring the men away -- we don't seem to get past the e-mail stage), one got a phone call then said sorry.
I did have one date off another site; saw the guy for 6 weeks before he dumped me.
So yeah, I'm looking. Don't think it matters much unless you're in one of the Bible Belt states where adultery (assuming you meet someone and sleep with them) is still against the law...Also assuming you're not parading a stream of men (or women) through the house in front of your children.
My kids didn' t meet the man I dated and none of my real life friends knows a thing about him. I met one other guy off another site a long time ago but we never really 'dated' and we're still friends. My kids did meet him as we're just friends.
Jillie
Re:Can we date online? AmyMarie1972: Hi,
It is whatever you feel most comfortable with. I myself am only separated and still legally married but am also dating. As far as I see it and the stbxh see's it our marriage is over. He is living with someone else.
You have got to be ready to date though. I know how lonely it gets especially directly following a separation and i know that if I could have I would have started dating straight away, but I didn't. I waited until I was comfortable with the situation I had been put into before. Then I was lucky enough to meet a really great guy.
There is nothing wrong with online dating agencies as long as you are carefull.
Take care and good luck
Amy
Re:Can we date online? Chase: Hi Starlight,
Once the marriage is over in your own mind, then you should feel comfortable doing whatever you want to do. So long as you're not looking for dates to make your ex jealous, or to fill a paper over pain that is a direct result of your breakup, then it all sounds perfectly fine and healthy to me.
Chase
Re:Can we date online? Lome: hey about Bible belt and adultery....
Legally...in no fault states it does not mater who you sleep with...except when kids are involved....
morally, that is your call. no judgement calls here.....just be careful not to get hurt
but consider wisely....separated still = married,
sleeping with someone while married is still adultery....and besides are you really emotionally ready? but, this is only if you think that there is any chance that you will get back together....
many people are "divorced" prior to the paper work being completed....
if you both just need a "separate" space/time appart...consider setting up rules of behavior
that way there are fewer hurt feelings
make friends first...you are just too vulnerable....even if the stbx is a jerk....
good luck
