Do you want Children ? ukchap:
I was wondering how many here who did not have kids
with their STBX (H or W) Partner or whatever were freting over the fact that they did not have the chance to bring some children into the world.
The thought that I may never find somebody to have a family with is begining to get to me ..
Your thoughts please people ...
UK Chap
Re:Do you want Children ? sigkapgirl: UKC ~ when my stbxh and I got married, we agreed that we did not want children - ever. Now that we are getting divorced, I am almost positive that I just did not want children with HIM (amazing what your subconscious will do!)
I think one of the hardest things for me, is that now that I think I DO want children, I feel like I'm behind. I know that I'm still really young (22) and that people are having children later and later, but I don't want to be 60 when my kids are graduating college!
Oddly enough, I have never thought that I WOULDN'T find someone else. I think its human nature to form relationships with others, and I've never once doubted that I WILL get married again, and more than likely, I WILL have children.
Just my two cents :)
Re:Do you want Children ? Blueyes424: UKC~
I do know what you mean. I had a miscarriage during my marriage, and I am afraid that my chance is gone. Like you, I am worried that I won't find someone to have a family with! It's been a fear in the back of my mind since my divorce was finalized.
But, then again, I suppose that if God wants me to be a mom, He will send me someone that will treat me right, and love me and who will want babies with me.
Just my thoughts....
~Blue
Re:Do you want Children ? Suddenly Single: Hi, I agree with Tarheel's Honey (the 1st paragraph!)
I was married almost 6 years and never had children nor have ever been pregnant (that i know of at least). I never really was too interested in HAVING kids (and I mean having them - I think I wanted them but the birth part is a little scary for me - I always wanted to adopt.)
The last year of my marriage we were beginning to talk kids. When we would - when I would take off work yada yada yada.
Well then he cheated...divorced....much happier now than ever before in my life.
Well be careful what you wish for - I didn't want to actually have the kids and apparently someone heard me because my boyfriend has three children. Luckily so far, knock on wood, cross your fingers - I couldn't ask for it to be going any better with the kids - they like me a lot and the feeling is definately mutual. They are great kids. We get along well - there are moments when I'm overwhelmed and need a break and they are sad if I leave! I seriously am SO thankful on how much they have accepted me. It is great.
However - now at my age - Yes I am starting to panic about not bringing any of my own into the world. Especially with the man I'm with. He is incredible. With my ex - I never wondered what our kids would look like or act like but watching him with his kids - I do all the time. Even if he didn't have kids - I would wonder.
He says he would have a baby with me if I wanted (and we got married) but after having 3 kids would he really want more??
SS
Re:Do you want Children ? timetobefree: [quote author=Tarheel's Honey link=board=20;threadid=14103;start=0#msg117698 date=1120143364">
UKC ~ when my stbxh and I got married, we agreed that we did not want children - ever. Now that we are getting divorced, I am almost positive that I just did not want children with HIM (amazing what your subconscious will do!)
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I too agree with TH. My ex and I were not going to have children. And now T and I have our children's names picked out. Amazing what being in a fulfilling relationship can do for the psyche.
We aren't rushing, but I am 30, so we plan to be married and starting a family in the next two years. Otherwise I will be 80 (and he'll be 82) when my children graduate from college! ;D
Amy
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