Re:Do you want Children ? turning leaf: When I was married, my ex and I wanted to have twins. When I discovered I had some ovarian malfunction, we both surrendered to scientific procedures and prayed to all the gods. All those invasive fertility procedures I had to go through went for naught as we stil were unsuccessful. We separated shortly after the last major procedure. Looking back, I don't know if I really wanted to have children with him becuase I was ready to have kids and raise wonderful mini-me's or if I was just desperate to have children to make him happy (he thinks a family ain't complete without kiddies). At this point, I'm grateful and very much relieved that we did not have kids. Maybe in a few years if I play my cards right, I'd entertain the thought of pro-creation once again and see if there's a qualified baby daddy somewhere in the horizon.
But the thought of looking into my own baby's eyes, the flesh of my flesh, blood of my blood, gives me so much hope and love.
Re:Do you want Children ? LostTeacher: when i first married my husband, the only thing i wanted to do was have kids with him. i loved him so much, and never questioned that we would be together forever....and kids to me were a big part of that.
but then every time i would try to bring it up, he would put it off. and even when we would have a serious conversation about it, later he would deny it would even happen.
in the dying days of our relationship, when i first packed a bag and walked out of the house, he phoned to look for me. when we talked on the phone, he brought up the idea of kids. he said "what if i don't want to have kids for 3 or 4 more years?" i said that we could deal with that....that i loved him and wanted to be with him. then he said "what if i never want to have kids?" well....i was shocked. that was almost a deal breaker right there....because i wanted to have kids.
now that we are seperated, i am so very happy that i didn't just "get" pregnant. that we were careful, and that i didn't make a mistake of having a baby with a man who all of a sudden became a stranger to me, who changed his entire life to be with a woman he barely knew.
i know that i will have kids someday. but right now, there are things in my life that i have to take care of first. there is no other person in my life yet, but i think that's ok, because i think that i still have a lot of healing to do, and descovering of myself to do before i am ready for that. and a child needs a strong, mature mother to survive, and i want to be that for my future children.
Re:Do you want Children ? minneapolis: Yes, UK Chap, it worries me all the time. My STBXH and I were actually trying to have our first baby when he announced he was leaving. We'd been trying for almost a year and I was starting to panic and d
Sometimes I think that the reason I never got pregnant with him was because it wasn't mean to be, not because I can't get pregnant. And I hold on to that while I need to but then I consider all of the other people who did get pregnant and also divorced and i just get confused.
But I am scared senseless that I will never have a family of my own. Not just because I want a baby to rock and children to bake cookies for and a daughter to walk down the aisle...but sometimes I get morbid and wonder who will take care of me when I am old if I never have children?
Re:Do you want Children ? twobeautifulkids: I find myself asking a different question since I have two kids already....would I be willing to have another child for Mr. Right? Guess we'll wait and see about that!
Re:Do you want Children ? iwontgiveup: im worried i cant be a mom as i am overflowing with issues
but i dont think ill meet someone to marry anyways
i have hope tho
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